So you say that you want to be married? Or maybe you are married but it just didn’t meet your expectations. I hope this can help someone.
There are so many people out there desiring marriage. That is so good, because marriage gives us an idea of just how much God loves us, we procreate and it is something amazing that God allows mankind to experience. However, the problem arises when we want to be married more than we want Jesus. We seek a spouse before we seek the God who created us. Of course the all-knowing God could tell us who to pursue and who to stay away from, but we simply just hunger so much for the fairy tale love story that we forget all about God. Too many people are expecting a story like The Notebook or a Disney channel love story. I think many of us have the idea that marriage carries us into a happy ever after without problems, but it doesn’t. Divorce rates are high just for that misconception. You must know that no matter how awesome they are, they are still human. Perfection can only be found in Jesus, so do not hold an extra high standard for someone that cannot fill it.
Ever heard someone say they want a Godly spouse or someone following Jesus, but they aren’t even following Him wholeheartedly? That will never happen, you attract who you are not who you want. If you’re pursuing Jesus then like minded people will be drawn towards you, if you’re a lustful person then that kind of person will be drawn to you. It is not God’s will for you to be with anyone holding on to the world. You two are going in opposite directions, keep your eyes on Jesus. Wait on someone you can pursue Jesus with, that will protect your purity and encourage you to seek Christ. So many want marriage so bad that they don’t take the time to evaluate themselves or the person they are with. God does not want us with anyone leading us away from Him, love does not lead to sin. A Godly man/woman can commit to one person, be careful of those wasting your time with their games. Do not say “I do” to someone who hasn’t said “I do” to Jesus. Committing to someone that doesn’t love God is only setting yourself up for a dead end relationship. If the two of you even last, you’ll still find yourself far away from God and that wasn’t your intention.
Are you even prepared for marriage, or do you just want a honeymoon, a ring and sex? Be careful of doing right things with wrong motives. Paul did say it’s better to marry than to burn (1 Corinthians 7:9), but keep this in mind: if sex is the only reason you are going into marriage, you’re not ready for it. Of course no one will be perfect before marriage, but be careful of jumping into it and you’re not ready for such a great commitment. It should be until “death do you part”, not until “looks fade and you run out of money”. Remember that it’s a lifetime commitment you are preparing for so do not rush into something you can’t handle. Guys, if you don’t want to commit then leave the girl alone. Stop trying to see how many hearts you can break before “settling down”. That even goes vice versa, because some women string men along and try to get the attention from him but won’t give him the commitment that he desires.
Think about it, your heart is too valuable to just jump into marriage and you weren’t prepared for it. Rushing leads to sin, broken hearts and wasted time. Choose today to be patient, wait on God to lead you and not our emotions that can easily change. His timing is perfect.
– Tovares Grey