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Dealing With the Root

I don’t know about everyone else, but I know my struggles. They are clear as day and I know where I need to make adjustments even though sometimes I may pretend to be blind to them. My question that I want you to answer to yourself truthfully is this: Do I have a reoccurring sin or struggle in my life that aims to weigh me down every time I try to go forward? Maybe you don’t have one and that’s fine, I don’t believe you but that is okay. The first step to growth is realizing change needs to be made.

So the bible says in Hebrews 12:1 to lay aside every weight and the sin that easily trips us up. A weight is something in our lives that may not be sinful, but they are very well distracting. Playing video games, hours of netflix/social media/or liking material things may not be sins whatsoever, but they become idols when they consume all of our time, affection and attention. Many times I’ve cut off my “weights”, but I realized that in a matter of hours, days or weeks I will definitely be back in the same sin or bondage. Why? Why is it that we can be sincere when we cry out to God and still go back to the same sin/distraction that we know cannot satisfy our souls?

When the unclean spirit is gone out of a man, he walketh through dry places, seeking rest, and findeth none. Then he saith, I will return into my house from whence I came out; and when he is come, he findeth it empty, swept, and garnished. Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first. Even so shall it be also unto this wicked generation. (Matthew 12:43-45)

Jesus lets us know clearly that the spiritual battle we are in is much more serious than some people believe. If God frees you from bondage, that is such a remarkable thing. I praise God for deliverance, but that is just the beginning. You have to understand that God did his part and now it is time for you to do yours. The bible says that this man’s spirit was swept and garnished, but still empty. Too many of us have the masks on that make us look so spiritual from the outside. God cleansed us and it’s even obvious in our demeanor, but what happens when there is no substance within us? You will simply fall back into the same sin later and sometimes things even worse.

For example, if you ask God to deliver you from masturbation or pornography. God can very well forgive you, cleanse you and give you a new beginning. But do you think He can force you to have godly desires? He can push you in the right direction but you have to move your feet. You would have to decide to open your bible and pray rather than engaging in things that could lead to those struggles. Right? If God freed you from that relationship that was just pure lust, fornication and adultery. Yes, He will forgive, but do you think He can force you to delete their number or the pictures? Can He force us to unfollow them and stop stalking their page? You see God knows you will have memories and be tempted to go back to where He delivered you from, but God doesn’t want to cut off your temptation, He wants to strip you of your desire to go back to them.

Three Ways to Overcome Your Ungodly Desires

  1. Stop acting like you do not know it’s wrong.
    1. God will not send you anything to distract you from Him.
    2. If you have to hide, cover it, or keep it secretive, it needs to go! David never wanted Bathsheba’s husband to be around until he didn’t want to take responsibility for the child that he shouldn’t have brought into the world. David was warned by his men before he sent for her, he knew she was married. Never ignore your warning.
    3. Many times we know within ourselves something feels wrong, but we try to avoid the voice of God. That isn’t just your conscious bothering you, that’s God telling you to stop playing with fire! We cannot twist scripture to justify our lifestyles, we must use scriptures to transform the way we live.
  2. Replace it!
    1. I’ve cut off many things, connections and environments to get closer to God. Sometimes I’ve returned right back to it, which is ridiculous. We have to replace these ungodly desires with ones that please God.
    2. Letting go of a lustful relationship is great, but what are you going to do after? So many of us “cut someone off”, but we never use our new free time to spend time with God. So now all of your free time is spent going through old pictures, reminiscing, and thinking about them. Eventually your body will go after what your heart and mind is focused on.
    3. Let’s say you struggle with music that you know is filth (I am not going to tell you what to listen to). So you cut off anything that you feel distracts you. However, you never replaced it with Christian music or something that uplifts your soul, eventually you’ll go back to what keeps your heart focused on everything except God. Or you like books like 50 Shades of Grey, you know its trash but you will go right back to it if you don’t feed your spirit with the bible, Christian books, or things that can benefit your mind and spirit.
  3. Consistency
    1. It is easy to walk on the straight and narrow road, but the challenge is in our consistency. We have to let our commitment keep us when the emotions are gone. I can say “I love You, Jesus” at church, but the challenge comes outside of the building and the temptations arise.
    2. Don’t think consistency means you won’t fail, but it means you are wise enough to get back up and get your eyes on the prize.
      1. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:8-9)
      2. The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand. (Psalms 37:23-24)
    3. The devil knows your weaknesses, he studies us and knows more about us than some of us know about ourselves. He knows what you like and He will wait a day or years to catch us to let our guards down. He will allow you to read this and be encouraged or convicted, and still tempt you before the day is over if you aren’t careful. So it is not enough to be committed today and relax tomorrow. Part-time Christians will never overcome fighting against full-time demons. Keep your guard up.
      1. You may think it’s okay to go back to sinful environments now that you are delivered, but you have to be realistic with yourself. Don’t say you are going to the club to be a witness for Jesus, and you know within yourself that a half naked person can pull your mind right back into sin and tempt you.
      2. Don’t say “God delivered me from being an alcoholic/drug addict, I can handle a drink or two/one puff won’t kill me”. Playing with fire will cause you to get burned. 

Before we think that people need to stop tempting us to sin, remember that we are only tempted when its things of our own sinful nature (James 1:14). You can’t tempt me to steal because I won’t budge, I never struggle with that. There are other things I have to battle with daily. In order to live a life of victory, it’s time to stop entertaining ourselves that keep us walking in defeat. 

It is not that hard to live for God, but it’s only easy when we choose to realize that the things He freed us from were not that great. Sin has temporary pleasure, but never a lasting peace after. Joy and real pleasure is only found when we get in the presence of God; we need to get into His presence if we want to see the proof that nothing this world has to offer is able to compare (Psalms 16:11). People think Christians are slaves to rules, but they are really slaves to feelings, sin and are empty. What we have in Christ is better than what we gave up to follow Him. It’s time to let God deal with the root of our “sin problem”, our deceitful and desperately wicked hearts.

Grace and peace,

Tovares Grey


32 thoughts on “Dealing With the Root”

  1. Wow, this post was absolutely amazing. I’ve always wondered why i would fall into the same temptation time after time. I know what the root is and praying that God with deliver me. Thank you for this post!

  2. This is exactly what was needed. It is time to fall madly in love with the Lord better than I would anything or anyone else. It all starts with me.

    Thank you.

  3. Reblogged this on love, ribbons and laces and commented:
    One of the best posts I read about conviction and repentance.

    Someone once told me, “Why even though I asked Jesus in my heart, cleansed from my sin and changed, I still feel like I’m condemned and sinful?”
    That my friend, is not condemnation. The devil could play with your head and remind you of your past and lie to you that you really didn’t change and it’s all a lie and a religious gimmick, but another is a prodding of the Holy Ghost. A conviction. Sin is not merely outward sin, but God ultimately wants a full surrender of our hearts, wills, minds and lives–everything we have. There are things that God will deliver us from instantly, but there are habits or even natural fleshly desires that he will convict to you about. Slowly but surely. It’s a process. Being redeemed is just the beginning. We are naturally sinful creatures and there are things in us that God has to reveal and point out that it is wrong. There are things that we think is right, but is actually something that is distracting us in serving Christ (I went through this, and it was painful). God promises he will give us the strength and grace as he takes us from glory to glory and molds us like His son Jesus. It will be painful at first, but true joy and deliverance comes after. This also beckons a deeper and more intimate relationship with Him, a deeper understanding of things spiritual and a life more and more like Jesus Christ.

  4. God bless you my young brother in Christ for bringing out these fine points. I’ve had reoccurring challenges for years with the sin of gluttony. Your post help me to understand that l can fill this emptiness with the Word, and ministering to others is helpful also.

  5. Thank you for your boldness and authenticity. When we desire and have a hunger for Christ, we will dislike sin, want what’s best and truly see and obey the signs the Lord sends our way. Obedience and wisdom! God bless you. You are very uplifting and encouraging.

  6. Fantastic points that are not spoken (nor written) enough. I’ve seen personal growth in many of these areas. I was reading along, agreeing and agreeing and then… The one thing I disagreed with. “It’s not that hard to live for God.” I’ll just say kudos for those that have it like that. I find the more involved with people I am, the more I have to check my flesh. Anywho, great post! I’ll be sharing it.

  7. Profound message indeed…… we need to understand that the root of ungodly desires will always be there. we can pure in spirit yes, but not detached from sin as long as we’re in this life; it’s a ongoing spiritual battle between the devil and the Spirit of God in us. but we must to refuse from following our own wilful choice and disobedience from a conviction that God’s way is the only right way…

  8. I guess this came in time. I deleted my social networks because I kept hearing this voice to let go of all the things I don’t need to focus and focus on HIM. I obeyed…finally. I sin. I think we all sin every day in different ways. I’m just focused on God. Spiritual warfare is real and people prefer to ignore the TRuth because they’re comfortable in their sin. These are the last days…time to get right. Thank you for your amazing posts as always.

  9. This is so refreshing! It cuts to the very core of the matter.
    I appreciate your honesty and faithfulness to the call to speak openly about issues that need correcting. God bless you brother!

  10. Such a blessing I really needed to hear this. Thank You Lord for your Holy Spirit and your conviction. Closing doors to the past.

  11. I’ve been struggling with this for some time. I know I’m free, my spirit bears witness….and I’ve known for some time but…..Thanks for this!

  12. After. Reading that. It made me feel so much better due to the fact of my unhealthy relationships. Thanks for the up lifting words. Praise God!

  13. Morning! Wow. What a great read. I saw the picture uploaded to Instagram last night and felt God tugging at my heart, “Read this blog!”
    This morning, I couldn’t help but see your Instagram story reminding me again to read it – was it God? I truly believe so.
    I just want to say thanks for sharing this message, this timely and honest message of finding the ROOT of our deceitful behaviours.

    Personally, this post is what I really needed to read for today. As a millennial, I get caught up with scrolling through Instagram more than anything; watching stories, double tapping photos, and before you know it, 30, 40, 50 minutes have passed! It’s so bad! The section, however, that spoke to me the most, was where you mention, “God doesn’t want to cut off the temptation, He wants to strip the desire to go back to them”, hence the ROOT. I realize more, that the problem isn’t the issue, rather, it’s the attraction to the problem.

    Thanks again! Looking forward to reading our other posts soon!

    –Lifeisabeaut <3

  14. Reblogged this on LifeisaBeaut and commented:
    Do you find yourself running back to old, deceitful, ungodly ways? Be honest with yourself, and answer yes. What you spend passive time on, selfish indulgences, and careless action – not good. Take some time and read this post of my friend in Christ, Tavares Grey. #mindfuel (that’s not a typo) #faithspiration (neither is that)

    “In order to live a life of victory, it’s time to stop entertaining ourselves that keep us walking in defeat. ”

  15. Who so true we have to go to the Root of that issue and make sure stay away from it. Thks for your encouragement!

  16. It’s like you see right through my soul. I love just so much and I want to live for only him but I keep going backwards. Now I know that I have to fight harder and let go of distractions so that I can become fully His. May God continue to bless you,your blogs are really helping me.

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