Ladies!! Y’all ready for this? Probably not, but keep reading anyways haha. We recently wrote a blog on the “6 Characteristics of a Godly Man“, and of course there was no way we would write about the men and not the ladies. Ladies, it is our goal that you can read this and examine your heart and see if this describes you. If it does, keep growing. If not, allow God to work on your heart so you can mature into this type of woman. If you’re one of the brothers reading this, then please don’t settle until you have found a woman with these traits, or is at least growing into this woman.
- Godly women spend time with God.
We live in a generation full of self-proclaimed Christians, but are we actually living up to that title? I’m not here to judge, but you can do a quick self-examination to see if that is you. Ladies, please understand the importance of building your walk with God. If your spiritual life is based off of “well my pastor/parents said….”, you will easily fall into sin. The devil got Eve to sin by simply manipulating the word of God and allowing her to confuse what God told her. 1. She shouldn’t have been talking to snake. 2. She told the snake that God said she shouldn’t eat from the tree or touch it. God never mentioned touching the tree. What if Eve thought eating the fruit wasn’t a big deal because she touched it and nothing happened? Ignorance to God’s Word will always cause us to stumble, we have to dig in and meditate on God’s Word.
When you know God’s word, study it and allow it to resonate in your heart, you don’t need anyone to validate you. When you’re building your walk with God, you don’t have to chase a ministry to validate you. When you know Jesus loves you, you don’t need a guy to make you feel important. A growing relationship with God is very important and should always be your focus.
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 15:58)
- Godly women are led by their faith, not feelings.
We have all probably heard at some point in our life that women are more “emotional” than men. There is always someone putting emphasis on how “emotional” women are. However, there is nothing wrong with emotions. Jesus wept. If Jesus showed emotions like sorrow, compassion, or even loneliness (you can say Jesus felt abandoned when it was time for Him to fulfill His calling on the cross), then why can’t women? The issue however, is that some women have allowed their natural emotions to be their god, instead of Jesus. You ever wonder why some people never find healing? That’s because some of them choose to stay broken. Being broken gives them attention and being bitter seems to give them some release to the built up hurt. Ever wonder why some people can never love? They don’t want to be hurt so they take God’s place and try to defend themselves. They try to defend themselves instead of allowing God to do that.
Godly women understand one important thing, God is bigger than their circumstance. They may have had their heartbroken, but instead of saying “all men are dogs” or staying down, she will find her identity in Christ and trust His timing the next time around. It’s easy to think going back to an ex is a good idea just because you miss them. But godly women know the difference between God leading them back or their emotions leading them back. It’s easy to allow what someone else did to you to ruin your life, but godly women understand that if God is on their side, they won’t have to fear what a person can do to them. Godly women are bold and they build their walk with God so they don’t have to depend on someone else to hear a word from God or show them their worth.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. (Proverbs 31:25 ESV)
- Godly women know their worth is in Christ.
Have you ever noticed something that is quite weird in the church: Church girls love “bad boys”? As in, they’ll date an unsaved guy or a guy that attends church, but isn’t living it? Honestly, it is very sad, and it shows how some people really don’t value their walk with God. The three biggest reasons women stay in unequally yoked or sinful relationships are because:
- They honestly think they don’t deserve better.
- Everyone else is dating. So I guess something is better than nothing, right?
- They feel like they’ve already stayed in a bad relationship for so long, leaving only means they have wasted their time and energy.
It is so easy to allow people to define you. Social media has become the best place to go if you want to feel inadequate or if you want to become proud. There will always be someone with less than you, causing you to think you’re “blessed” and have it all together. And there will always be someone with more than you causing you think God is not on your side. However, a godly woman knows that married or single, God is the only one that can complete her. No job, person, money or attention can ever be more fulfilling than Christ.
God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early. (Psalms 46:5)
- Godly women are known by their character more than their looks.
Every time someone mentions a godly woman, I have noticed that they always refer to Proverbs 31. For some reason though, I cannot find a bible verse in that chapter that mentions how pretty that woman is. It could just be me, but clearly the bible is telling us that our hearts are more important than our exterior. By no means am I here to tell women to never wear makeup or to place no time or preparation into looking beautiful. You can look amazing and still be modest and godly. However, what good is it to be beautiful and have a bad attitude? Who cares if you’re a 11/10 in the face and body if your walk with God is nonexistent? A godly man will never pursue a woman who isn’t passionate with her walk with God. Don’t get me wrong now, you should never serve God just because you want Him to send a spouse. But if being married is your goal, you need to bring more to the table than looks.
Women of God can’t be like the women in the world. We cannot influence those we imitate, God has a higher standard for us. Women are more of the nurturing type. Women of God will always be known by their love, compassion, grace, kindness, and other traits that they use to benefit others.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)
- Godly women guard their bodies, hearts and minds.
There will always be a distraction coming to knock you off course. Some random guy who cares about your body more than you or your walk with God. Someone coming to you with gossip, rather than good news. Some people who come to you with false doctrines, negativity or simply attacking you. But godly women know to stay in God’s presence so they won’t fall into drama or sin. Living pure is more than what you do or don’t do. You have to resist the devil, but you also have to submit to God and keep your heart focused on Him.
It’s so easy to compromise, society makes it beyond easy, but you have to know to keep your affection on Christ so that your heart won’t get corrupted by the enemy’s lies. Of course, you will fall at times, but godly women know their worth is in Christ so they will get back up again and keep going (Micah 7:8). Don’t allow your heart to get distracted by lust, toxic relationships, bitterness, envy, depression or anything else. Guard your heart with the things of God (prayer, studying your bible, fasting, etc.).
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. (Proverbs 4:23 ESV)
- Godly women are still human.
I think one of the most frustrating things is to expect to have it all figured out. It is draining trying to remain perfect in everyone’s eyes. Stop living to please everyone else and focus on Jesus. You can fall into sin just like everyone else, but God’s grace is there to lift you back up, show you the right way, and strengthen you as you pursue righteousness.
I spoke to a young lady recently who said she felt “weird” because she struggles with lust and porn and she thought that was a “male struggle”. Society really poisons our mind into believing that there are gender specific struggles, but the bible states the devil wants to destroy all of us. Ladies, you’re not weird for struggling with anything, you’re human. But being human is no reason to suffer in silence. Be accountable to other godly women. Be willing to seek God in prayer and the Bible instead of believing “I’m only human” is a license to sin.
There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)