Dead Christians

We buy more books, join more ministries, and we follow cool Christians on social networks. We find everything to occupy our time with, other than the will of God. Many seek to go higher but they have yet to decide to leave behind the world. Some even spend hours in Church, but when it comes to personal sacrifice and devotion to God, they aren’t up for that. I realize now is because the most Christians in the Church are still alive. Now many may read that statement and either overlook it, or call me a false teacher, but before you call it hogwash, think about it. Has God ever once encouraged us to live in our flesh or has He commanded us to die to it? We often seek revival but live in rebellion. God won’t work miracles until we fear Him again.


Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. (Colossians 3:5 ESV)

….I die daily. (I Corinthians 15:31)

For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be. So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God. Romans 8:5-8

Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy. (1 Peter 1:16)

Five ways to know you’re still alive to your flesh:

1. You lack interest in Godly things.

You can tell where a person’s heart is based on what they are passionate about. It’s a problem if I can tweet about God all day but cannot spend time with Him alone off of a social network. something is wrong if I only remember God exists is Sunday during service, but I ignore Him throughout my week. It’s a problem if I can pursue a woman, but cannot pursue His presence. something is not adding up if I can shout after my favorite team scores or wins, but I am quiet in church or I cannot at least say “thank you” for many blessings”.

2. You are your own boss.

There is no such thing as “I do what I want, when I want, or how I want.” A Christian says “God, your will, on your timing, and for your glory.” We cannot think we call the shots, God is our Lord. Serving Him gives more freedom then being a slave to sin or selfish pursuits. The Bible also shows that Jesus didn’t argue or fight when accused, it says we are to hold our peace and let God fight for us (Exodus 14:14). Quit trying to be right all of the time, and leave things in the hand of God.

3. Your priorities are out-of-order:

If we rather hang out with friends or watch television than spend time with Jesus, we have to change something. If we rather check our texts instead of His Text (The Bible), something is out-of-order. If I can watch a movie for hours or a game for hours and I think God better be happy with my two-minute prayers throughout the day, then I need to repent.

4. If I’m not in obedience to the Word.

“No one is perfect” is an ungodly excuse from the pit of Hell that seeks to ensnare us believers into complacency. The devil wants us to give God less than what He deserves and say, “Thank God for grace”. Don’t be fooled, grace saves but it also changes. The Word of God is our mirror that we need to look into and have God clean us up and chisel us into His image. We cannot treat God’s Word like a magazine, skimming to what we like and what is convenient. All of it is to be obeyed, applied, and taken to heart.

5. My friends aren’t seeking God.

Don’t get me wrong, we will all hang around unbelievers, and we will be related to them, but if the relationships you are closest to you are pointing you towards sin, something is wrong. Don’t seek to be like the world, stand out and be the light (Romans 12:2). Your friends can determine your outcome, choose wisely (Proverbs 13:20).

A generation is rising that wants the power of God without being in submission to God. Before honor is humility. Remember this, the God of the Old Testament is the same God in the New Testament. The bible tells us that Jesus is still the same (Hebrews 13:8), so why do we think He’s comfortable with sin now? Yes, He has always been merciful, but that never made Him happy that we are comfortable in sin. He said, if you love me you will keep my commandments (John 14:15). God wants our obedience, not our excuses. You may not be perfect, but God wants you to die daily to your carnal nature so your spirit can become conformed to His image (Romans 8:29). Maybe you will never be perfect, maybe you won’t reach maturity for years, but will you at least try to please God with your life and not just your mouth? I don’t want to simply say I’m a Christian or believer, but I want to live the way the apostles did in the Bible. My God is still the same, I have more resources than they did, I am probably younger than they were, and I cannot make it simply seem as though God is retired and the world will never experience true Christianity. I have personally seen miracles with my own eyes and ears: cancer healed in many at my church, financial breakthroughs, lawsuits and jail time canceled, and more but I don’t want to sound like I’m boasting. My point is this, I want it to happen more in my life and I would love for it to happen in yours as well, so I draw this question to you: Are you willing to die so that Christ can finally take complete control over your life?

“If Jesus isn’t Lord of all, He isn’t Lord at all.”

I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

– Tovares Grey


The Chase

This one is for the guys. I’m well aware that many guys are seeking relationships: some boys just want to have “fun”, but there are some men that are looking for commitment, so I had to write something about it to put some things into perspective concerning relationships.

When seeking a relationship, keep these things in mind:

1. God did not create you to be a player or a pimp.

Do not waste the young lady’s time or emotions with your games. If you want to commit, then do so. If you don’t, move on. It is not fair for any person to invest so much into you and a future they are expecting only to have you treat them as though they never mattered. A real man doesn’t make 100 different women fall in love with him, he commits to one and tries to find hundreds of ways to make her happy. God cannot be pleased with you treating his daughters like toys.

2. Seek her heart, not her body.

Guys, God wants you to pursue a virtuous woman, not chase skirts. Jacob is the perfect example for a man so in love that he was willing to wait seven years for her (Genesis 29:20).It felt like a few days because of how much he loved her. Even after being cheated by her father, he went through another seven-year period of waiting for the woman he desired. Until you two commit to one another at the altar, don’t combine your souls in bed. It just isn’t worth the emotional roller coaster to have your body connected to many different people.

3. Is she even virtuous?

Stop looking at curves, and look for a woman with a heart after God. It does not matter how nice they look, if their heart is not after Jesus than how can they build you up spiritually? Many women call themselves “Proverbs 31” women and many aim to be there, but did you know that not many live that lifestyle? Proverbs 31 does not mention a woman’s looks, it focuses on her heart and character. Be careful of getting a beautiful woman who is lukewarm, more concerned about her fashion and social networks instead of evangelizing to lost souls, or a woman who is lustful instead of spiritual. The person you marry will be raising your kids, are you sure you want your kids acting like them? It does not matter if she can twerk, turn you on or she attends church occasionally. The question to ask is does she love Jesus, is she a role model and can she wait until marriage so you two can remain pure in heart and body?

4. Singleness is not a disease.

It is okay to spend time being single so you can get your life into perspective. Your life does not begin on your wedding day, so live now! Quit waiting on someone to complete you because true satisfaction does not come from man, it comes from Jesus. Colossians 2:10 says, “And ye are complete in him (Jesus), which is the head of all principality and power:. We are complete in Jesus, don’t look for anyone to fill the void in your heart that can only be filled by Jesus. This season of singleness is what helps you become a better spouse. Get your life together now before burdening your spouse with unnecessary baggage later.


 Come on, do I even have to say this? Guys, God created you as a leader and provider, quit being comfortable having the woman do everything. It is okay if she makes more money than you, but the problem is when you are lazy or have no ambition, feeling comfortable that you don’t have anything to do. Study, work, learn, excel! Be an example to younger guys and to this economy. Let her know that even if you guys go through a slump or if you don’t have a job at the moment, that you will still spend your time finding ways to provide and lead whether financially, spiritually, and emotionally.

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. It seems as though God wired us as men to be stimulated by sight, but it can turn chaotic if we go about it the wrong way. Your sex drive is normal, but can be uncontrollable if you feed your heart and mind with sinful things. Men are initiators, hunters, and even conquerors. What thrills men is the chase to get a woman, but sometimes that in turn hurts a woman because some men lose interest after they have won her heart and eventually get bored and want to move on to someone else. God said that it wasn’t good for a man to be alone so he made a woman to help him. However, I am well aware that not everyone is meant to be married, and sometimes God simply has a different purpose for them. That is fine, when single you can give more of your heart, time and resources to your purpose. Just know that whether you are chasing a relationship or not, remember to chase Jesus. Never stop following Jesus to be with anyone, whoever you end up with should help you grow spiritually. photo

– Tovares Grey


The sole purpose of Jesus coming to earth was to take from satan what was originally designed for Him, mankind. We are all born with a sinful nature and are going to rebel against God, even if it wasn’t willfully. Since the fall of Adam, we all needed a savior. That is the reason Jesus came, to put us back in right standing with God. 
Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many. (Matthew 20:28)
When Jesus came on earth, He didn’t seek popularity. In fact, His ministry didn’t really start until He was 30 (Luke 3:23). When His ministry began, He was concerned more about delivering people, rather than getting people to like Him. Jesus was more concerned about seeing lost souls find their purpose, rather than having a large fan base. There even came a point when He said some statements that caused many to leave Him (John 6:66). He didn’t break down and give up because He knew His purpose was redeeming man, not to be famous. There came times when Jesus would heal someone and would say to keep quiet (Ex: Matthew 8:1-4). There was no fear in Jesus, but He wasn’t seeking attention. Jesus called only 12 men, and because of their ministry, this world has never been the same. 
And that, knowing the time, that now it is high time to awake out of sleep: for now is our salvation nearer than when we believed. (Romans 13:11)
I believe the church has lost focus a bit. We are so concerned about ourselves and fail to realize many do not yet know Jesus. Are you more concerned about who’s following you, rather than who’s following Him? We check our social network followers daily, but how many check to see who’s following Jesus? We have the unfollower apps so we are quick to unfollow someone back, but we should be more focused on who stopped following Jesus. People are still in church but have backslidden in their hearts, maybe it’s your prayer or help that could restore them. The Church has many activities going on and making people believe God is pleased, but is He? Are souls being saved or are lukewarm Christians simply being entertained?
Be careful of what you focus on. Focus on souls, not just followers. The only thing we can bring to heaven is people, but we won’t bring a twitter or Instagram account. The main focus there is Jesus, not how many likes or retweets you got on earth. Stop inviting people to a doctrine, Church or to a party, invite them to Jesus!
Too many want titles, the microphone and popularity. Not many dedicate their lives to serving, praying, studying and fasting. The men Jesus picked changed the world because they dropped their identity to follow Jesus. They allowed themselves to be changed by Christ before they shared the Gospel. Too many of us try to follow Jesus, but aren’t willing to let go of our sins, bad company or even sinful behavior. It’s time for us to stop and think about what’s more important, social networks or a relationship with Jesus? Church members or disciples? Don’t point people to yourself, point them to Jesus.
– Tovares Grey