HE Is Worth the Wait

It is so easy to become eager when you are expecting something. Especially when you’ve been waiting on it for a while. We fantasize and obsess, creating a tunnel vision in which we see nothing else except for that one thing we know will bring contentment and joy and even security. Nothing else matters until the dream in our hearts become a reality in our lives. We exude so much passion in pursuit of that next job/career, that house, that car, that relationship… There is nothing wrong with going after any of these things but nothing guarantees that they’ll be worth the wait and truly satisfy us until we learn to trust and wait on God. My dad used to always sing this song “There is no satisfaction without salvation”, and never did I truly understand it until now.
 

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. (Matthew 5:6)

 
Long before my husband I started dating, there were times when I longed for a companion. To be honest, I knew I wasn’t ready for a relationship but seeing all my friends around me in relationships made me believe that I needed one. At some point I even allowed satan to convince me that I was lonely… That I was incomplete because I was single and that what would make me the happiest was to find “THE ONE” for me. I remember being in high school and never having a boyfriend. My “friends” would say I was lonely and some would even encourage me to come to parties or out with them for the weekend. They promised me a life changing experience. But my parents were saved and strict and I knew better than to ask them if I could ever participate in any of those activities. I was miss “Goody Two-Shoes” and I hated it! I was tired of sticking out like a sore thumb and I wanted to fit in so I decided I was going to get a boyfriend. I “dated” this guy in an attempt to “fit in” and to remove the loneliness my friends said I had, but I still didn’t feel like I was fitting in and my relationship did not make me happy because it wasn’t one I wanted to be in. I knew this person wasn’t for me and I knew my reasons for entertaining this relationship were all wrong.
So at some point I had to stop allowing society to make me feel like being single and pure was a sickness. I realized God did not call me to fit in and I would never fit in because God’s agenda for my life required just the opposite. I ended that relationship and redirected my focus on the ultimate one worth waiting for, Jesus Christ.
 

Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. (Psalms 37:4)

 
I’m sure many others have similarly been where I was. It’s so easy to lose your identity in trying to obtain what the world displays as happiness. What I started to realize is that the world’s definition of a relationship wasn’t a healthy one and relationships do not bring you happiness if you are with the wrong person. And if you aren’t spiritually and mentally mature enough to handle them, they can be destructive. Just because our peers look happy in relationships, that doesn’t mean we should compare ourselves to them in believing that we too need to be in a relationship right now. Who says they are truly happy anyway? You don’t know that. The path God has for you is different from the one He has for someone else so it is important that you stay in your lane and not get ahead of yourself.
Singleness is a blessing, and there are so many things that you are able to do more freely when you’re single that you might not be able to do when you’re married. This is your time to serve God without added family responsibilities and obligations.
 

But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:32-34)

 
I learned to chase Him in my single state and trust Him to write my love story. In my love life and in other aspects of life, I’ve had to learn to wait on God and not get so anxious in obtaining my worldly desires. Once I put my life and decisions in God’s hands, I’ve been completely satisfied with Him and what He’s given. Simply because He gives me His best and His plans for me are far better and greater than the plans I had for myself. He was truly worth the wait, He still is worth the wait, and He will always be worth the wait.
I encourage someone to wait on God today. He will fill your heart and satisfy you like no one else can. All your dreams and desires are so plain and miniscule compared to those He has for you. It’s so crazy how difficult it might be to see this now but we will better understand it as time goes by.

 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

 
Grace and peace.

6 Characteristics of a Godly Woman

Ladies!! Y’all ready for this? Probably not, but keep reading anyways haha. We recently wrote a blog on the “6 Characteristics of a Godly Man“, and of course there was no way we would write about the men and not the ladies. Ladies, it is our goal that you can read this and examine your heart and see if this describes you. If it does, keep growing. If not, allow God to work on your heart so you can mature into this type of woman. If you’re one of the brothers reading this, then please don’t settle until you have found a woman with these traits, or is at least growing into this woman.
 

  1. Godly women spend time with God.

We live in a generation full of self-proclaimed Christians, but are we actually living up to that title? I’m not here to judge, but you can do a quick self-examination to see if that is you. Ladies, please understand the importance of building your walk with God. If your spiritual life is based off of “well my pastor/parents said….”, you will easily fall into sin. The devil got Eve to sin by simply manipulating the word of God and allowing her to confuse what God told her. 1. She shouldn’t have been talking to snake. 2. She told the snake that God said she shouldn’t eat from the tree or touch it. God never mentioned touching the tree. What if Eve thought eating the fruit wasn’t a big deal because she touched it and nothing happened? Ignorance to God’s Word will always cause us to stumble, we have to dig in and meditate on God’s Word.
 
When you know God’s word, study it and allow it to resonate in your heart, you don’t need anyone to validate you. When you’re building your walk with God, you don’t have to chase a ministry to validate you. When you know Jesus loves you, you don’t need a guy to make you feel important. A growing relationship with God is very important and should always be your focus.
 
 

Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 15:58)

 
 

  1. Godly women are led by their faith, not feelings.

We have all probably heard at some point in our life that women are more “emotional” than men. There is always someone putting emphasis on how “emotional” women are. However, there is nothing wrong with emotions. Jesus wept. If Jesus showed emotions like sorrow, compassion, or even loneliness (you can say Jesus felt abandoned when it was time for Him to fulfill His calling on the cross), then why can’t women? The issue however, is that some women have allowed their natural emotions to be their god, instead of Jesus. You ever wonder why some people never find healing? That’s because some of them choose to stay broken. Being broken gives them attention and being bitter seems to give them some release to the built up hurt. Ever wonder why some people can never love? They don’t want to be hurt so they take God’s place and try to defend themselves. They try to defend themselves instead of allowing God to do that.
 
Godly women understand one important thing, God is bigger than their circumstance. They may have had their heartbroken, but instead of saying “all men are dogs” or staying down, she will find her identity in Christ and trust His timing the next time around. It’s easy to think going back to an ex is a good idea just because you miss them. But godly women know the difference between God leading them back or their emotions leading them back. It’s easy to allow what someone else did to you to ruin your life, but godly women understand that if God is on their side, they won’t have to fear what a person can do to them. Godly women are bold and they build their walk with God so they don’t have to depend on someone else to hear a word from God or show them their worth.
 
 

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. (Proverbs 31:25 ESV)

 
 

  1. Godly women know their worth is in Christ.

Have you ever noticed something that is quite weird in the church: Church girls love “bad boys”? As in, they’ll date an unsaved guy or a guy that attends church, but isn’t living it? Honestly, it is very sad, and it shows how some people really don’t value their walk with God. The three biggest reasons women stay in unequally yoked or sinful relationships are because:

  1. They honestly think they don’t deserve better.
  2. Everyone else is dating. So I guess something is better than nothing, right?
  3. They feel like they’ve already stayed in a bad relationship for so long, leaving only means they have wasted their time and energy.

 
It is so easy to allow people to define you. Social media has become the best place to go if you want to feel inadequate or if you want to become proud. There will always be someone with less than you, causing you to think you’re “blessed” and have it all together. And there will always be someone with more than you causing you think God is not on your side. However, a godly woman knows that married or single, God is the only one that can complete her. No job, person, money or attention can ever be more fulfilling than Christ.
 
 

God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early. (Psalms 46:5)

 
 

  1. Godly women are known by their character more than their looks.

Every time someone mentions a godly woman, I have noticed that they always refer to Proverbs 31. For some reason though, I cannot find a bible verse in that chapter that mentions how pretty that woman is. It could just be me, but clearly the bible is telling us that our hearts are more important than our exterior. By no means am I here to tell women to never wear makeup or to place no time or preparation into looking beautiful. You can look amazing and still be modest and godly. However, what good is it to be beautiful and have a bad attitude? Who cares if you’re a 11/10 in the face and body if your walk with God is nonexistent? A godly man will never pursue a woman who isn’t passionate with her walk with God. Don’t get me wrong now, you should never serve God just because you want Him to send a spouse. But if being married is your goal, you need to bring more to the table than looks.
 
Women of God can’t be like the women in the world. We cannot influence those we imitate, God has a higher standard for us. Women are more of the nurturing type. Women of God will always be known by their love, compassion, grace, kindness, and other traits that they use to benefit others.
 
 

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

 
 

  1. Godly women guard their bodies, hearts and minds.

There will always be a distraction coming to knock you off course. Some random guy who cares about your body more than you or your walk with God. Someone coming to you with gossip, rather than good news. Some people who come to you with false doctrines, negativity or simply attacking you. But godly women know to stay in God’s presence so they won’t fall into drama or sin. Living pure is more than what you do or don’t do. You have to resist the devil, but you also have to submit to God and keep your heart focused on Him.
 
It’s so easy to compromise, society makes it beyond easy, but you have to know to keep your affection on Christ so that your heart won’t get corrupted by the enemy’s lies. Of course, you will fall at times, but godly women know their worth is in Christ so they will get back up again and keep going (Micah 7:8). Don’t allow your heart to get distracted by lust, toxic relationships, bitterness, envy, depression or anything else. Guard your heart with the things of God (prayer, studying your bible, fasting, etc.).
 
 

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. (Proverbs 4:23 ESV)

 
 

  1. Godly women are still human.

I think one of the most frustrating things is to expect to have it all figured out. It is draining trying to remain perfect in everyone’s eyes. Stop living to please everyone else and focus on Jesus. You can fall into sin just like everyone else, but God’s grace is there to lift you back up, show you the right way, and strengthen you as you pursue righteousness.
 
I spoke to a young lady recently who said she felt “weird” because she struggles with lust and porn and she thought that was a “male struggle”. Society really poisons our mind into believing that there are gender specific struggles, but the bible states the devil wants to destroy all of us. Ladies, you’re not weird for struggling with anything, you’re human. But being human is no reason to suffer in silence. Be accountable to other godly women. Be willing to seek God in prayer and the Bible instead of believing “I’m only human” is a license to sin.
 

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)

 
 
Grace and peace.

6 Characteristics of a Godly Man

What does a “godly” man even look like? Most have their opinion, some good and some bad. Well how does God portray a real man? Ladies, before you jump off the ledge with a clown, read this and see how a man really should act. Men, before you go chasing a woman for marriage or you’re just reading this because you desire more of Jesus in your life, I’m praying this can help you. What exactly makes him “godly”?  Let’s see!
1. Godly men spend time with God.
It’s very easy to look spiritual. You can attend church and you can post scriptures on social media because you love God, but that doesn’t mean you spend time with God. We have to be intentional about our growth. It’s easy to let hours go by without acknowledging God. We can Netflix, play sports, video games and basically do nothing for an entire day. We may never be able to “find” time to seek God, but we have to make the time to grow. Our hearts and minds are bombarded by distractions, so we must make the deliberate choice to shut everything down and open our bibles. To turn off the screen and get down on our knees to pray. To decide to not go out with the friends one day and go on a fast. We have to develop a hunger for God in order to live godly lives.
The true measure of a believer is not in how high they jump in the service, but how straight they walk according to God’s will after. Spiritual growth does not happen by accident. We don’t find God by accident, we must be intentional. In my opinion, it shows maturity when you can spend time with God even when it feels “boring”. Pushing past your feelings, because you know that God is worthy despite how you “feel”.
Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. (Matthew 5:6)
2. Godly men are bold.
No man who knows his worth in Christ will ever feel the need to be shy or be afraid of anyone’s opinion of their lives. That doesn’t mean we all should be the outgoing and “extrovert” type just because we love God, but none of us who understand our worth will allow fear and insecurities to cripple our spiritual walk. All of the disciples that Jesus held close to Him weren’t the smartest alive. However, they spoke with authority, power and with wisdom because they were being led by the spirit of Christ (see Acts 4:13).
If a man is interested in a woman, he will pursue her. He will not wait on a woman to be interested in him. He will seek God, pursue her, and do everything within his power to win her affection. Godly men know what they want and they won’t settle for less. That doesn’t mean he will force a woman to love him back, but he will go out of his way to win over her heart. So ladies, if a man doesn’t pursue you, that can only mean three things:
  1. He is NOT interested.
  2. He is NOT ready for a commitment.
  3. He is interested, but too shy to speak. If he is, that doesn’t mean throw yourself at him to break the ice. Some men are just not that confident, especially around a beautiful woman. But he should be willing to get past that if he is interested. I do not believe a woman should pursue a man, I do not believe the bible supports that (Proverbs 18:22). However, that does not mean you can’t make a friend and pray that God tells him to pursue you (you ladies know that you do that already).
The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion. (Proverbs 28:1)
3. Godly men try to lead others, not control them.
There’s probably nothing worse than someone who demands respect, but they don’t deserve it. You can’t expect your wife to submit to you, and you’re controlling instead of leading her. You can’t expect your friends to see you as a godly example to emulate, if you are condemning them rather than loving them and living how Jesus lived. The fruit of the spirit is self-control, not people-control. Manipulation and control are characteristics of the devil, not the spirit of God. If Jesus Himself does not seek to control us, then we should not be doing that to anyone else. Controlling boyfriends/girlfriends will become controlling spouses, so please do not settle. You shouldn’t have to cut off friends or social media to “make them happy”. You shouldn’t have to “report” to them with your whereabouts. BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT, but please understand that is different from being controlled.
And if you have been accused of this, It’s not to say that you’re going to Hell and you’re such a terrible person. You just have to learn to see people as people, instead of objects. You also need to learn that God is in control and it is okay to trust Him, instead of expecting you will always have it figured out or you always need to control the situation.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23 ESV)
4. Godly men exercise consistency and discipline.
Paul never felt like he reached his highest level, he continued to strive to get deeper into God’s presence (Philippians 3:7-10). I like to use Paul as an example a lot because I feel like he is the best example on how God is able to turn your life around no matter how bad your past was. Jesus tells us that the people who hunger and thirst after righteousness will be filled (Matthew 5:6). It’s one thing to confess that you love Jesus, but that is something that must be shown in your consistent efforts in seeking Him. When it is tempting to get lazy and complacent in your spiritual life, you have to be willing to dive into the Word of God. When you are tempted to compromise your walk with God, be willing to say “this isn’t worth my intimacy with Jesus”. 
I used to struggle with a particular issue so much that I had to seek help from my mentor. He showed me how to get over the issue with advice, prayer and the scriptures. I “overcame”, but I was back in my mess in just a few weeks or months later. I have come to realize that we fall into sin when we get complacent with our walk with God (1 Corinthians 10:12-13). Unless we are consistently seeking God for help, that thorn in our flesh will continue to be a stumbling-block for us. However, the more we seek Jesus for help with our issues, is the more we will see that His grace is sufficient and that His strength is made perfect in our weakness (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10).
And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. (Galatians 5:24)
 
5. Godly men guard their purity
Now before you think I just said godly men are some form of biblical superheroes, let me clarify. No I did not say they cannot fall, I said they guard their purity. Falling into sexual temptation has to be the easiest thing to do on planet earth. You had to go out of your way to see something or do something inappropriate a few years ago. Now, I can pull out my smartphone and I’m free to lust over anything moving. I cannot tell you the amount of times I’ve went on YouTube for one thing, and the suggested videos are showing me nonsense. Let’s not even mention Social Media’s negative influence on our efforts to live pure. However, that is no excuse to fall. The devil can tempt us, but we can choose to not indulge in it. It’s one thing to notice a lustful image or see someone dressed immodestly. But what I think and what I allow my heart to desire is fully up to me.
We all know David fell into sin with Bathsheba, He saw a beautiful woman taking a shower and decided he had to have her. Instead of turning away, he allowed lust to take over. If you know that what you’re looking at is ungodly and not God’s will for your life (porn, inappropriate images on social media, etc.), then please stop before it leads further down a path of immorality and emptiness.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.” (Job 31:1 NLT)
6. Godly men are human
Many people will read this blog title and believe I am setting some false illusion of what all men must be or they aren’t true Christians. But the truth is, godly men are always going to be a work in progress. If you were perfect, you wouldn’t need Jesus. So many people are walking in shame today because they’ve slipped, but there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus and trying to pursue Him daily (Romans 8:1). God sees when we are striving to please Him with our actions. If you aren’t where you need to be, then draw closer to God. The bible says God will draw closer to us if we draw closer to Him (James 4:8). “No one is perfect” and “I’m only human” is not an excuse for sin, but it is the reason why we have to just allow ourselves to depend on God’s grace daily. Let God order your steps so you can be a light to others.
The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand. (Psalms 37:23-24)
Grace and peace.