Idolizing Marriage

So you say that you want to be married. That’s fantastic! However, your desire may be delayed because of your motives. Why is our society so deceived into thinking that they can’t be happy until someone else comes along to give them worth? Marriage is so great, but it cannot complete. Good things cannot fill God’s role. Marriage is meant to be a blessing, but not your purpose on earth.
Okay, before I scare you away, let me get into the point of this blog!
There are so many people out there desiring marriage. That is so good, because marriage gives us an idea of just how much God loves us. Husbands are literally told to love their wives the way that Christ loves us. If that isn’t an indicator on how serious God takes marriage, I really don’t know what is. We are blessed with the gift of sex in marriage which gives pleasure and the ability to procreate. However, the problem arises when we want to be married more than we want Jesus. We seek a spouse before we seek the God who created us. Of course the all-knowing God could tell us who to pursue and who to stay away from, but we simply just hunger so much for the fairy tale love story that we forget all about God. Too many people are expecting a story like Love and Basketball, The Notebook or a Disney channel love story. I think many of us have the idea that marriage carries us into a happily ever after without problems, but is that the case? Every “romance” movie we watch, the movie ends with the highlights! The boy finally wins her heart. That pretty girl finally gives that guy a chance and they run off into pure bliss. The couple who broke up and moved on, somehow managed to run back into each other and fate would have it that their love is rekindled.
“It is definitely God’s will that I get my fairytale!” That’s just how it should be, right?
Wrong. Relationships don’t always go according to our plans….even if we love Jesus. Divorce rates are high just for the misconception many of us believe. You must know that no matter how awesome they are, they are still human. Perfection can only be found in Jesus, so do not hold an extra high standard for someone that cannot fill it. Marriages fail when God isn’t the center, but your idea of how marriage is. You both will have work to do, but you can’t grow if you two aren’t CHOOSING to forgive, love, cherish, respect and honor even when the feelings may fade.
Ever heard someone say they want a Godly spouse or someone following Jesus, but they aren’t even following Him wholeheartedly? That will never happen, you attract who you are not necessarily who you want. If you’re pursuing Jesus, then like-minded people will be drawn towards you; if you’re a lustful person, then that kind of person will be drawn to you. It is not God’s will for you to be with anyone holding on to the world. You two are going in opposite directions if they choose to remain lukewarm or unsaved. Keep your eyes on Jesus. Wait on someone you can pursue Jesus with. Wait for the type of person that will protect your purity and encourage you to seek Christ. So many want marriage so bad that they don’t take the time to evaluate themselves or the person they are with. God does not want us with anyone leading us away from Him. Love does not lead to sin. A Godly man/woman can commit to one person. Be careful of those wasting your time with their games. Do not say “I do” to someone who hasn’t said “I do” to Jesus. Committing to someone that doesn’t love God is only setting you up for a dead end relationship. If the two of you even last, you’ll still find yourself far away from God and that wasn’t your intention.
Are you getting yourself prepared for marriage, or do you just want a honeymoon, a ring and sex? Be careful of doing right things with wrong motives. Paul did say it’s better to marry than to burn with lust/passion (1 Corinthians 7:9), but keep this in mind: if sex is the only reason you are going into marriage, you’re not ready for it. Of course no one will be perfect before marriage, but be careful of jumping into it and you’re not ready for such a great commitment. It should be until “death do you part”, not until “looks fade and you run out of money”. Remember that it’s a lifetime commitment you are preparing for so do not rush into something you can’t handle. Guys, if you don’t want to commit then leave the girl alone. Stop trying to see how many hearts you can break before “settling down”. And vice versa, because some women string men along and try to get attention from him, but won’t give him the commitment that he desires. Divorce is only common because we are seeking guilt-free sex, a wedding celebration, someone to control and manipulate rather than a best-friend we can honor Christ and grow with.
Think about it, your heart is too valuable to just jump into marriage and you weren’t prepared for it. Rushing will lead our vulnerable hearts into sin, brokenness and wasted time. Choose today to be patient, wait on God to lead you and not our emotions that can easily change. His timing is perfect.
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

My Friends Don't Understand my Walk with God

Living for God is such an amazing experience that we get to enjoy daily. He changes our lives from the inside out and delivers us from many things that used to keep our hearts in bondage. Unfortunately, our “friends” don’t always see it that way. What makes it even worse is when our “Christian” friends don’t support us. I can understand a nonbeliever questioning my desire to pray or fast, but not a Christian. I can understand an atheist saying negative things about my attempt at a disciplined life, but not someone in the “church”.
“Bro, you are doing way too much!”
“Girl, chill. Stop acting overly spiritual.”
“Don’t be so ‘heavenly minded’ that you’re no earthly good.”
“I get that you say you want to do right, but all of those things are just leading to legalism or a self-righteous approach of earning God’s love.”
I have heard these things said to me and to others before; but what if I told you that your friend was doing you more harm than good by saying those things? What if they want to help you, but their “good advice” is not “God advice?” What if God is actually calling you into a deeper place of intimacy, but you will never experience it because of your company?
Anyone that makes you feel bad for being passionate about living for God is a distraction from the enemy. It is best to keep a healthy distance and pray for them, instead of having them keep you comfortable in a stagnant walk with God. I am not advocating for foolish or weird behavior, because God will use friends to explain the scriptures to us and tell us when we are viewing things wrong. I am saying that there should be no one in your inner circle that doesn’t want to see you grow into who God is calling you to be.
Let’s look at 3 major things every believer should do when their friends don’t support their walk with God:
1. Examine your friends.
I’m just going to make this plain, everyone isn’t meant to be your close friend. Jesus is our example of how to love and treat others, and even Jesus had an inner circle. Jesus preached to masses, did life with 12 disciples, and yet He only called Peter, James and John for certain situations. Did he love them more than the others? No, not at all, but He had a different purpose for them and possibly a deeper level of intimacy with them.
If your friends stop you from growing, then you two must address it or slowly drift apart. If your friends are struggling with the same issues as you, then accountability is hard. Instead of having the wisdom to help you out of it or the boldness to rebuke you in love, they will give you a pass (because they are struggling).
So again, check if your friends are growing and keeping you accountable. If they aren’t, they should not be in your inner circle.

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, WITH THEM that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22)

2. Challenge your friends!
This is something many never do because of fear, but why be afraid if the person wants to be in your life? Jesus had a rich, young ruler coming to him that seemed to have it all together. Jesus gave him one command, to sell his possessions and give it to the poor. However, the guy didn’t do it, and he went away sorrowful. What I find interesting about this is that Jesus never chased behind him. Too many of us are running behind people that God is not sending to us. If they aren’t willing to meet certain standards or to make any sacrifices, they aren’t willing to be in your life. If you are only valuable to them when it is convenient for them, that is not the will of God for your circle. Stop thinking you can’t push your friends to grow with you. If you aren’t doing so, you aren’t a good enough friend to them.
If I cannot tell you that you’re living beneath your purpose, I don’t love you. I should be able to genuinely say “get it together, you’re better than that” without it being taken as judgment. If you don’t have friends that do that, challenge them to challenge you. Pray for God to send people who will push you!

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. (Proverbs 27:6)

3. Be willing to find friends that don’t look or think like you.
This may sound simple, but this is one of the hardest tasks for a person. We will always naturally gravitate to those who look or think like us. It doesn’t matter if it’s politics or sports; we will feel more at ease when the person we are conversing with has things in common with us. Like for me, I have a few friends that act just like me. We can laugh and joke literally all day. The problem with that though is they will have my same issues so they may not pull me out of my spiritual valley. It wasn’t until recently when I started making friends with people who are of different races, denominations, financial status, various cultures, etc. that I hadn’t seen some things with a clear perspective. That’s like me being a guy with a Jamaican background and not going out to eat a lot when I was younger. So now when my wife and I want to go out or friends invite us out to eat, I don’t even know what to pick. Not because I’m super picky, I’m just not familiar with a lot and in need of someone to expose me to it.
How much is God trying to show you, but you aren’t able to see because it looks unfamiliar? How many people has God sent your way to push you into purpose, but you ignored them for being too “churchy”, “different” or too “weird”? Jesus gave Ananias clear instructions on what to do in Paul’s conversion. However, he knew how Paul used to persecute the church. God had to take him out of his comfort zone in order for Paul to be delivered, because he was possibly afraid of the things Paul would do to him. People may not be used to you or you with them, but you need others in order for you to be who God called you to be.

But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen instrument of mine to carry my name before the Gentiles and kings and the children of Israel. (Acts 9:15 ESV)

Your environment will play a major role in determining your destiny. God wants to bless your life and it requires the right people on your team and the wrong people can delay that calling. Not only can they delay purpose, but bad company will corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

Temporary Loss for an Eternal Gain

“Come, follow me.” – Jesus. If you are reading this blog, you are either a Christian or God is calling you to His kingdom now. We have all either answered God’s call or are still contemplating. Should I? Should I not? I don’t want to get saved and have to leave the church. Should I turn to God and then be a hypocrite because I can’t live a perfect life? These questions are all normal, but just remember this: You cannot clean up your act before you come to Christ, He is the one that will change you. You will never be “ready”, its just something you have to do and allow God to take control. God loves you enough to take you the way you are, but He loves you too much to leave you that way. We only mess up when we don’t allow God to take complete control and we try to run the show.
All of us have been in relationships (whether it being family, dating/marriage, or coworkers/classmates), and we have all known that a relationship is a two way street. If you want the relationship to work and grow, you’ll have to sacrifice. More time to listen to one another, help one another, give to one another and even correct one another in love. The point is, love is a sacrifice. God loved us all on the earth but no one would have believed He cared if He didn’t let Jesus die for our sins. No one will believe their partner cares if they never listen, never show affection or even help. God knew love required a sacrifice. That’s why if we love God, we must sacrifice some things.
If ye love me, keep my commandments. (John 14:15)
– If we never obey God, we don’t really love Him. We may be infatuated, but the truth is, we sometimes like what we can get, not who He is.
– Loving God means loving what He loves and hating what He hates.
– The same way God sent the ultimate sacrifice, is the same way we must sacrifice our old lifestyles for a genuine relationship with God.
– We can’t be the bride of Christ while dating satan. Break up with sin so you can find true life in Christ.
If you’re a Christian and it didn’t cost you anything, then something is very wrong. Here are a few things that must take place in the life of a believer:
1. You should not be equally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14)
2. You should come out of the crowd and live consecrated/transformed lives (Romans 12:2 & 2 Corinthians 6:17-18)
3. The world will hate you for looking, talking, and living differently (John 15:18)
4. We will have stay away from sinful things that try to break us down spiritually (1 Peter 2:11)
5. We will have to love those who hate and mistreat us (Matthew 5:44)
6. Even though we are living righteous, we will experience troubles (Psalm 34:19)
7. We will have to run away from fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18)
8. We MUST kill our sinful desires (Galatians 5:24)
9. We cannot love this world or the things of the world (1 John 2:15)
10. We will experience traumatic losses, but we must trust God’s plan and not get angry at Him (Job 1:22)
Whoever said the Christian life was always easy lied, but it is always worth it.
For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18)
– Whatever we go through is NOTHING, compared to what Christ has in store for us. We just have to be willing to say “not my will, but thine be done”.
– Tovares Grey


Follow Jesus

Salvation is free and available to all who accept the invitation. Unfortunately, so many “accept Jesus as their lord and personal savior”, but never allow Him to reign on the throne of their hearts. It is easy to be a Christian in church and it is very easy to claim you believe in God, but faith without works is dead. So many will speak in tongues but have a mind that isn’t yet renewed. It is easy to wear a nice church outfit, hat, heels and a long skirt, but not everyone allows God to give them a new heart. A heart that hates what God hates and loves what He loves. We shouldn’t just look the part, we must act the part. Not just a form of godliness, but living a lifestyle like Christ.
And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. (Luke 9:23)
Deny Himself:
– To continually tell your flesh no. You don’t do the sins that you used to commit and allow to rule your live. Instead, you’re submitting to God. You have lost sight of self and now your eyes are on Jesus.
– This is where you allow your mind to be renewed with the word of God and your heart to be changed in His presence.
– Put away your desires for God’s desires. You rather put your dreams on hold or let them go for the sake of the gospel.
– The old you is dead and gone, but Christ is now living through you.
Take up your cross daily:
– Your share of sufferings with Christ. We want to reign with Him, but first we must suffer with Him (2 Timothy 2:12). Paul was a mighty man of God, but despite everything he done, he still stated that he wanted to know God. One aspect of knowing God he said was being in “fellowship with his sufferings” and “being made conformable unto His death” (Philippians 3:10).
– When carrying a cross, you don’t have strength to carry other things. We shouldn’t be trying to hold on to sin. We cannot walk hand in hand with God and satan simultaneously.
– No cross, no crown. God will give us beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3), but we must get burned first. Jesus couldn’t rise as king if He wasn’t crucified first.
Follow Jesus:
– You are obedient to His word. Even to the ones that you don’t want to obey, you submit to His divine will over your own desires.
– Wherever God leads, you follow. Even when times seem hard, you trust His plan.
– Hold tightly to Him. You know that without His word, you cannot live.
– You conform and begin to act the same way He does. Whoever you hang around is going to rub off on you. If you’ve been around Jesus a long time, it’ll be displayed in your lifestyle and in the way you treat others. If you’ve haven’t, that’ll be very obvious as well.
– You are the reflection of the company you keep, the things you entertain, and the motives of your heart.
One thing we must realize that following Jesus isn’t just “do’s” and “dont’s”. It’s about breaking up with the world and falling in love with Jesus. When you love Jesus, no one has to tell you to obey Him, you’ll want to (John 14:15). “….his commandments are not grievous (1 John 5:3), which means the things God requires of us are not overwhelming or too much to handle. Holiness is only a problem for someone who hasn’t made up their mind that their living completely for Jesus.
Let today be the day that you decide who you will serve. Will you serve the living God, Jesus? Or will you continue to live for the god of your emotions, indulging in a life of sin and selfish ambitions? Jesus is asking us for everything, because those who are playing church actually have no use to God (Revelation 3:16). God doesn’t want us to just attend church, ministry begins outside of the church. Christianity is more than singing on choirs or playing instruments, it’s having a relationship with the Creator. When Jesus said “follow me”, he didn’t mean “look at me from a far”, “life will be easy”, nor did He say “watch others”. Jesus simply bids us to follow closely beside Him, having an intimate connection to Him and His presence. So let’s put aside the games and distractions and start actually living what we read.
Heavenly Father, I thank you for being such a great God. I do not know why you would choose me to be your child, but I am willingly accepting your request. Strengthen me as I follow You, because sometimes life seems hard and lonely. I pray that you’ll continue to guide me, in Jesus name, amen!


Jesus is My Anchor

There are many things that a person can avoid and run away from, but a couple of things that will always be there no matter how much we want them to leave, are hard trials and sin. We will always end up in some sort of problem or difficult time. Then there’s the devil who wants to tempt you and make you disobey God by sinning.
In ships, almost always you can find something called an anchor. That is what they will use when it is either time to stop moving, or either the weather is unbearable and they need to keep steady before they get off track. Without this anchor, many ships would be destroyed in violent weather, and many ships would lose direction every single time they decide to set sail.
Being a Christian doesn’t mean you are excluded from problems. Honestly, I believe that is when problems seem to start. It’s just that a Christian and a nonbeliever is different, because we lean totally on God. A nonbeliever will turn to friends, family or their own resources. It is nothing wrong with that, but those sources aren’t guaranteed to always be able to help. Christians rely on God and no matter how hard the situation gets, you still have that peace because you know it’ll all work out for your good. There is not one problem that comes our way that God wasn’t aware of, or one He cannot handle.
Many different things come to knock us off course or try to make us move out of our place. However, the word of God will show us how to deal with any of those situations. For example:
• Low income or too many bills to handle:
– The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the Lord shall not want any good thing. (Psalm 34:10)
– But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19)
• Anxiety about different situations:
– Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
– Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Sickness or Disease:
– …..and with his stripes we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5)
– But unto you that fear my name shall the Sun of righteousness arise with healing in his wings;…..(Malachi 4:2)
• Ungodly(carnal) friends:
– Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33)
– My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. (Proverbs 1:10)
– Stay away, (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
Temptation seems unbearable or you keep falling into sin:
– No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
– The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand. (Psalm 37:23-24)
These are only a few examples of things that come to take us off track. There is only one person who can keep us steady in life, and that is Jesus Christ. Trials will come from now until the day we die, but with Jesus in the vessel, we can smile at the storm.
How to get Jesus as your anchor:
• Consistent prayer
• Studying and applying the word of God to your life
• Fasting
• Denying self and seeking God
• Complete, not partial, submission
• Obedience
Always remember, that in this life, we will always have things that come to shake us up. We just have to know that Jesus will give us peace the entire time. Yes, the storms will come and the winds will blow, but Jesus can simply say “Peace, be still.”, just like in Mark 4:39, and your problems must cease.
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 15:58)
God bless,
Tovares Grey


Imperfect, Yet Victorious

There will always be a time in someone’s life where they will fail at something. No one will always go through their life without troubles. You may lose a game in sports, you may fail an exam, and you may even be a devoted Christian that falls into sin.
Jesus is well aware that a Christian will go through temptation, hard trials, and will have many obstacles to overcome. He was God in human form, but the bible showed that He was well aware of life’s troubles.
– Read John 17, that was Jesus’ prayer for us.
– For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. (Hebrews 4:15)
Jesus overcame the world. His spirit within us now empowers us to overcome sin, temptation, and every trial.
If you struggle with any of the upcoming situations, let me just give you a few scriptures to uplift you.
• Sickness:
– But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5)
– If you never been sick, how would you know that God is a healer?
• Low income:
– But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. (1 Timothy 6:6, 7, 10)
– I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread. (Psalm 37:25)
– Money isn’t everything. Don’t serve God for a big bank account.
• Fear:
– For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
– There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)
– When God is on your side, there is nothing to be afraid of.
• Feeling Condemned:
– There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)
– Jesus convicts us so we can repent, the devil condemns so we can avoid the presence of God.
• Indecisive:
– The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. (Psalm 37:23)
– Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
– We will never be sure of what to do unless we are aligned with God and allow Him to lead us.
• Sexual Temptation:
– There hath no temptation taken you but such as is COMMON to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
– Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. (Philippians 4:8)
– If you feed into it, you will fall into it. That’s like digging a grave that you’ll eventually fall into. Starve it and it’ll die. Be careful what you listen to, watch, and entertain.
• Consistently falling into Sin:
– Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)
– If you never submit to God, you will NEVER have the power to resist sin.
• Unforgiveness:
– But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; (Matthew 5:44)
– Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven. (Matthew 18:21- 22)
– Of course it gets annoying forgiving the same person over and over for the same reasons but forgiveness isn’t for them, it is for you. Not forgiving and being bitter is like drinking poison and expecting the next person to die.
People in the bible also had issues, but God used them!
– Timothy was too young.
– David stole a mans wife and had him killed.
– Paul used to kill Christians.
– Peter denied Jesus.
The list goes on and on.
You have your issues that need to be fixed, but stop trying to do it by yourself. Let Jesus fix it, you cannot do anything by yourself.
– Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. (John 15:4)
You are striving towards perfection, but you have to understand what perfection is. Biblical perfection speaks of maturity.
– This stage is where you are producing much fruit, see Galatians 5:22-23.
– This stage doesn’t mean you will have no fault. You are just less likely to sin because you rely on God more and you are very close to Him.
Stop beating yourself up. We are fighting from victory, not for victory. The battle is already won!
And ye shall be hated of all men for my name’s sake: but he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. (Mark 13:13)
– Tovares Grey