Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

Stumbled back into Lust? #NoLustNovember

Hey guys! Day 6, and I know some of you are absolutely amazing and you are just kicking your old lifestyle out and seeking Jesus like never before. However, I am realistic and I know this isn’t the case for all of us. Have you made a mistake since the month started? Have you looked at lustful images and didn’t turn away like you should have? Is that girl’s body still in your mind, bro? Is that handsome guy still playing with your mind and emotions, sis? Did that song, movie, or conversation stir lust back up into your heart? Did you go to their house again knowing it would lead to fornication?

Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly. (Proverbs 26:11 ESV)

It’s crazy that we look at the men and women in the bible as being such perfect believers and that must have been the reason God used them, right? Wrong, God used them because they depended on His Spirit. God didn’t use them because they had it all figured out. Paul is someone I reference a lot, because he was a great example on how to live (other than Jesus). However Paul mentioned that he had a weakness he wanted God to remove. God told him “no”. He was telling Paul that His grace was sufficient for him and He would help him overcome his issues (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10). However, I want to draw your attention to Romans 7 (read all of it when you can). Paul mentions that the things he wants to do, he doesn’t do, but yet he finds himself doing things he doesn’t plan to do (Romans 7:15). Sounds familiar? Yes, because that is all of us serving Christ. We want to live pure and righteous lives, but we don’t at times. We want to hate sin at times, but yet we find ourselves falling into sin. Not only do we fall into sin, but we fall into the same one we repented of 831 times at the altar. However, I love how chapter 8 begins, because it stops focusing on our failures and points us to the solution – Jesus and His grace. You are not condemned. You are His. Don’t stay in your mess when Jesus died to free you.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)

I’m here to tell you that it is okay that you messed up. The only people who mess up are the ones who tried. You can only break a fast when you are fasting. You can only become weary when you have been fighting. Falling is inevitable, because you are human. But that is why we have the Holy Spirit, to guide us away from temptation and to restore us when we fall. Are your actions okay when you sin? Not at all. Is God pleased with your decision to turn back to your sin? No, He wasn’t pleased. But I am here to tell you that it is okay for you to get back up again. No way am I telling you to keep committing your sin, but you have to understand that God expects growth, but He is fully aware that we are human. There is grace for His children because we cannot do things on our own (Psalms 130:3). You don’t have to stay down just because you fell into the same mess. You can and you will overcome, in Jesus’ name. You won’t overcome on your own, but you will when you decide to turn away from those things and people that are toxic to your spiritual walk.

If thou, Lord, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand? But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared. (Psalms 130:3-4)

So for those who have fallen, and for those will fall tomorrow, please get back up again. Be sorrowful, be remorseful, be sincere in your repentance and get back up again. Take a break from social media if you must. Unfollow some accounts if you’re failing. End some relationships if you see the cycle is repeating and no boundaries are being followed. Because it is one thing for your relationship to make a mistake, but it is another when it is just not God’s will for your life (read more about that here). Please don’t quit, let’s keep growing!
Remember to stay engaged with us! How?
– By using the hashtag #NoLustNovember on your pictures, statuses or videos that you’ll use to encourage others.
– Sharing what God shared with you during your devotion.
– Sharing a quick video about overcoming lust or a testimony.
Pray Psalms 51 when you get the chance.
Grace and peace.

No Lust November

Welcome to the first day of #NoLustNovember! Everyone is familiar with “No Shave November”, but I wanted to do a weird twist on it and give Christians something they can relate to. This is a challenge for everyone to jump in on. I’ll be checking for this hashtag on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter and talking to you all so we all can hold one another accountable. 
Before you go any further, I have a blog on “Fighting Lust” that you can read here if you haven’t already. 

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

One of the most dangerous things a believer can do is assume that they have it all together. The Bible says to be careful when you think you’re standing firm because that is when you’ll fall (1 Corinthians 10:12).
Many Christians are under the impression that they cannot fall into sexual temptation. I used to be one of those. I would wonder how are people being so gullible and consistently falling into the same sin, but I realized with my own struggles that it wasn’t something as simple as I assumed. Then there are other Christians that believe they cannot break that cycle over their lives, but that’s because they aren’t properly following God and establishing boundaries. Understand this, falling into sexual sin is common. I am not saying this to justify anyone’s sinful lifestyle. I am saying that so you can know as a reader that you can overcome in Jesus’ name and you don’t have to keep hiding your weakness. God’s strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Be willing to let go. 

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. (Matthew 5:28-29)

When you talk about overcoming lust, many people target the symptoms rather than the real issue. So they’ll be willing to stop watching a certain show, but they won’t end the relationship. Or they will end the relationship, but they’ll still check up on the person. Sometimes we even overcome and then turn back to our filth. What I have realized is, Jesus isn’t a passive God. Jesus was so drastic in His teaching that many didn’t like Him and many turned away. If we aren’t willing to cut off what stimulates lust, are we tired of that lifestyle? No, we enjoy it but we don’t want its consequences. Sin never satisfies, it only pushes you to go further and further away from the presence of God. Are you disgusted with your sin yet? Ask God to remove those desires. Stop entertaining those desires and watch that sinful desire begin to fade out of your life. 
Be willing to examine your heart and take spiritual inventory. Some people shouldn’t still be in your life. Some shows shouldn’t still be on your tv. Some social media accounts should’ve been unfollowed months ago. Are you willing to let go of your past life to embrace what God has for you?

“But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭2:9‬)

What are you going to choose today? Your porn or Jesus? Your fornicating/adulterous relationship or Jesus? Your ungodly friendships or Jesus? Your music that corrupts your heart or Jesus? Your feelings or Jesus? Your lust or Jesus? Your pride or Jesus? 

“For my people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.” (Jeremiah‬ ‭2:13‬)

This scripture shows us that we as the people of God can easily backslide and choose things that can’t satisfy. The woman who met Jesus at the well was searching for Jesus, but she didn’t know it. No man could satisfy. She went from man to man and still never found true love until she met Jesus. That’s you and I. Searching for something to satisfy, and I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to choose lust anymore. 
So what do you say…….Challenge accepted? 
This journey is for everyone, but I don’t expect everyone to participate. If you desire more of God and less of that sinful cycle, then let’s get this party started! Jesus satisfies, trust me. Let’s not turn back. Forget what you did before starting this and let’s go back to the cross and the plan of God. 
What I need you to do!
1. Post a picture everyday with the hashtag #NoLustNovember so we can be engaged together! 
2. Post a verse, prayer, or your journal talking about what God is sharing with you on this challenge. 
3. Don’t judge anyone, just grow! 
4. Don’t quit WHEN you make a mistake. Not if! 
Grace and peace. 

Full Time Christian

Does anybody know that you are a Christian? Pause…. Take a minute and think about this. Outside of your church and household, does anyone know whether or not you follow Jesus Christ? Do you laugh at the lustful or perverted joke, or are you willing to walk away or end the conversation. Can someone come to you with a problem and you pray for them rather than look down on them? Do you dress, talk or look exactly like the world, or are you brave enough to try and be different?
You see, many of us believe in God but sometimes we fail to take our faith and put it to action. God’s Word said that “faith without works is dead” (James 2:20). Being a Christian is much more than attending church, getting baptized, speaking in tongues, modest clothing, giving tithes or offering, or even helping the less fortunate. Did you notice something in common about all of those examples? Those are all outward expressions, but they have nothing to do with the heart. I mean many do it because their heart is overwhelmed by God’s goodness, but anyone could do those things to look the part. You see, even though all of these are great, if your heart isn’t in it, then it is pointless. I think we all need a heart check. We have to pray and ask God to help us to take off the masks we wear. You know, one for church, one for school/work and another at home? God can never heal someone that doesn’t show their wound. I say that because many of us do those things but yet we still struggle with envy, pride, lust, bitterness, and many other things that are not visible. So we look saved, but yet our hearts are not that genuine. Church attendance means nothing, we have to start applying and allowing God to change us from the inside out.
But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Many times people do everything in their power to appear saved, but have not really changed in their hearts. Meaning they will reluctantly follow rules, but their hearts are not surrendered. We may attend church and “look” the part, but inside we are still broken, lost, and not sure how to be healed. God is ready to mend anyone that will be willing to just open up to Him. We will all struggle, even me as I write this, but God is bigger than your struggle. If God can rise from the dead, you have the power inside of you to rise up out of whatever is holding you down.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28)
God is not seeking “part-time employees”. It’s time for us to surrender our lives over to Him. By life, I don’t mean pray and study more, because many times we take that for a ritual. We should know that the very privilege to know the One true living God is a blessing. God wants our desires, not our deeds. Once we fall back in love with God, spending time with Him will be extremely easy. I spend time with what and who I love, even when I find myself busy. Let’s find ourselves back to the heart of worship, when it’s all about Jesus. God bless, you.
Buying soap doesn’t make you clean, using it does. Owning a bible doesn’t make you saved, applying it does.” – Tovares Grey


Breath of God

And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7)
God formed man out of dust. We were nonexistent, nothing to be admired, looked on or of even worth. Even when God formed us, we had no use whatsoever. Adam BECAME a living soul AFTER God breathed into him.
This is the very reason we need the breath of God to blow on and within us. Without God’s spirit we would still be dead and useless. Without His spirit, we would still be in sin, the world, and lost without a hope of salvation. When Jesus’ death reached our hearts and the moment we surrendered to Him, God breathed life into us.
God uses the outcasts, the rejected, the broken, poor, and the weak to show the world that we are all nothing without Him, but we can do everything THROUGH Him. It isn’t about where you came from, as long as God is behind you, nothing can stop you (Romans 8:31). Degrees, beauty, riches, and popularity doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that God is with us, nothing will be able to stop us then.
The children of Israel were labeled as a valley of dry bones (Ezekiel 37).
– Dry bones have no more use, you surely cannot find anything to do with them.
– There was absolutely NO life in them, so you know people ignored and gave up on them.
– When Ezekiel prophesied and believed God, The Lord breathed on the bones and they began to come together.
– Not only did they come together, but they became a great army.
It doesn’t matter how insignificant you were, when God breathes on you, you become great and you’re equipped to do His work.
– Moses had a speech impediment, but God used him.
– Timothy was young, but God used him.
– David killed and committed adultery, yet God used him.
– Paul was once a murderer of believers and turned into a GREAT missionary.
– We have our imperfections, flaws and carnal ways that make us feel that we cannot fulfill God’s call, but if you feel that way just ask Him to breathe on you once again. David was still a man after God’s heart. Many may judge you by your mistake, but you are not your mistake. You’re God’s child!
When God breathes in you, your spirit is awakened. Pray for God to breathe on you once again. Even if you feel He’s not listening, just keep seeking. Keep praying and reading His word. His word says He will fill you when you are hungry/thirsty.
In the beginning, when God decided to make the world, His Word says the earth was void and without a shape. However, it said that the Spirit of God moved on the waters (Genesis 1:2). God had to move on the earth before He went further. God wants to breathe on us once again. In the book of Acts, God poured His spirit out while the people were praying (Acts 2). That’s because He said in Luke 24:49, that they should wait for Him to empower them. Acts 1:8, said the Holy Spirit will give us power. Let’s not go further without asking God to breathe on us, ask Him today. God bless!
– Tovares Grey


Keep Calm

You are human! I know when times get hard, the first thing we often tend to do is get worried. We all know we should pray and let God handle it, but we often try to take things into our own hands and take up unnecessary stress. We try to carry something only Jesus can fix. Not saying you doubt God, because it’s human nature to do things like that.
If you’re thrown into a pool and cannot swim, you will not keep calm. You will panic! Even if there’s a lifeguard, you will panic. If you don’t have enough money to pay for bills or take care of your family, you will sometimes be worried. These are natural human tendencies. Which is why Jesus calls us to have faith in Him. Without faith, it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6). Because you first have to believe He is there even if you cannot see Him, and you must believe He is able to handle your situations.
The children of Israel were delivered out of bondage by God, through Moses. They knew God was powerful, because they saw all of the plagues He done, but yet didn’t allow them to harm the Israelites. However, when they were out of Egypt they were still afraid for their life when they came to the Red Sea. Doesn’t that sound like us? God took us out of hard times, but the next time we have a problem we get worried as if God retired? God paid your bill last month, can’t He do it again?
And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever. The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace. (Exodus 14:13-14)
We all know the story of how God allowed them to pass through on dry ground buy destroyed the Egyptians in the sea. However, my point is this: God is able to handle your situations, just keep calm and stop stressing! If God could do something so unexplainable by splitting a sea open, why can’t He save your family, pay your bill, deliver you from problems? We all trust Him, but we must know that praying and worrying contradict one another. If you pray, don’t worry. But if you worry, don’t pray. You cannot say “God, You are able” and then say “God, I doubt you will do this for me”. Choose to trust Him.
One of the keys to God handling our problems, is that we must hold our peace. To be honest and not judgmental, some of us talk too much. We are the ones getting ourselves into problems by all of our words. We call people our “haters” and say “they can’t handle the gift God has given me”, but the truth is we can be so arrogant that people move away from us. Jesus wants us to speak when necessary, just keep it simple (Matthew 5:37). Too much talking leads to sin (Proverbs 10:19).
Here are a few situations you will find yourself in today, this week, or soon:
1. Someone will offend you and you will want to retaliate in a “non-Christian” way.
– Hold your peace and let God fight for you. Let God repay those who mistreat you (Romans 12:19).
2. May not have enough finances to handle a situation.
– God will supply every need, but not our greed (Philippians 4:19).
3. A rough period that seems unfair to be in.
– The righteous will be afflicted many times, but God will always deliver (Psalms 34:19).
4. Teacher/boss/parent will deal with you harshly.
– Nothing we do is for people, so continue working hard even when they’re cruel (Colossians 3:22-25).
5. You will be faced with the guilt of your past.
– Don’t argue with the person or beat up on yourself, just know that you’re forgiven when you confess it to God and ask for forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
You will not face anything that God cannot handle. Never stress over your obstacles, there is a purpose for the pain you have been experiencing. God will make you better, and He always exalts the humble person (1 Peter 5:6). Just keep calm, and let The Lord fight for you. God bless!
– Tovares Grey


Peace Be Still

No matter who you are, where you come from or whatever you believe, there will come a time in your life where you will experience difficulty. Many believe money is the answer to their problems. Even though I agree that money can solve many things, it cannot bring happiness. If that were the case we wouldn’t see many millionaires kill themselves, business owners lose everything in a day, neither would we have celebrities that feel empty and turn to drugs or alcohol.
There are only three types of people in this world:
1. Those going into a storm.
2. Those already in their storm.
3. Those coming out of a storm.
We all must experience difficulties at some point in time. Many of us who claim to be Christians get discouraged and sometimes even walk out on God when things go “wrong”. I really wonder which bible they read because my bible said that “righteous” people will have many trials. However, it promised that God would deliver us out of all of them (Psalms 34:19). We always get the mindset that if God is all powerful, why would He let the devil harm me? However the devil cannot harm you, he can only show us where our heart lies.
Job was a man that walked upright before God and didn’t even like the sight of sin (Job 1:1). However, God gave the devil permission to step in and mess up everything around Job (Job 1:8-12). When Job went through this experience I could completely understand any frustration that he may have had, but he never turned his back on God. Job’s very own friends didn’t understand the process God took him through and criticized him. However, when it was all said and done, God restored double back to Job (Job 42:10).
Many of us pray and ask God to use us, but did you know that was a way of being used for His glory? Sometimes we lose things we love, but it’s not for us to cry or murmur, it’s for us to realize that God is all we need. Job really cared about his children, it’s evident when the bible mentions him making daily sacrifices for them (1:5), and it’s clear that he had much riches (1:3). However, that all left and all he had was God. However, if God is all we have, we have all that we need. Even if people do not understand our process, God has a purpose for it. Jesus rebuked Peter and called him “satan” (Matthew 16:23). Was Peter a child of satan? No. However, Jesus only came on earth to be crucified. Anyone who wants to stop God’s process in your life is NOT your friend, they are a spiritual hindrance. So Jesus had to rebuke Peter and assure him, our lives are for God’s glory not for physical comfort.
If God decided to shake your life upside down, would you still say you trust Him? If none of your bills were paid and you didn’t have a job, would you still believe He is Jehovah Jireh, The God who provides? If everyone that you cared about walked away, would you chase them or look up to Jesus? Lets be honest, those are not easy questions and many of us struggle with those. When my uncle was murdered, I didn’t know what to do. I basically internalized it and stored up so much anger. Now that I think of it, God is still healing me from past hurts like that. However, God can’t work on our behalf if we don’t trust Him. I would not have made it past that season if God did not give me peace in my storm.
Jesus purposely went into a boat with his disciples knowing that their would be a raging storm. To make things worse, He went to sleep. I don’t know whether to laugh or not, but if I was in that scenario maybe I would have cried. The disciples saw the boat filling up with water and woke Jesus up asking if He didn’t care if they died. Jesus rebuked the very weather and asked His disciples why didn’t they have faith. The storm could’ve been caused by the devil, but the glorious truth is that God has the power to quiet every problem in our lives (Mark 4:35-41).
Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever (Hebrews 13:8), so if he could calm storms then, he can now. If Jesus could heal the sick before, your sickness isn’t a problem. I know so many people God has healed from several sicknesses, so I’m sure God can heal me if He ever allows me to be sick in the future. That lump the doctors told my mom they saw, is gone because of the power of God. That bill I did not know how it would be paid, God provided. You think lust is unbearable, look around and see how many people God has helped. Your scenario is not always like others, but your God can handle any situation.
Many are still going to leave this blog and be afraid when they meet obstacles, but just continually remind yourself: God is able (Ephesians 3:20). Never forget it. Do not go by what you see, go by what God’s word said. When your prayers seem to be delayed, don’t think they are denied. Just keep praying (Luke 18:1-8). God bless!
– Tovares Grey


Full Time Submission

One of the easiest things for a believer to do is get complacent. Of course there are many people passionate about growing in their relationship with God, but most times many are afraid to change or unwilling to allow God to have complete control. It’s so easy to get stuck in our comfort zones, but we all have to reach a place where we decide to be more than a normal Christian. Men in the bible did great things because they were obedient and willing, not because they’re better than us. We can all know God in a more intimate way if we just let go and give Him total control.
Could you imagine an Olympic Gold Medalist saying they are not going to train, because they know that they have “everything under control”? Usually, people with those mindsets are the ones who fail. There are many people training day and night and surely one of them will eventually beat this person who refuses to practice. “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” It is not that this person isn’t gifted, but their gift can’t help them when they refuse to discipline their body.
Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall. (1 Corinthians 10:12)
It is the same way for us spiritually, if we choose to not study the word of God, pray and fast, we are just asking to fail. The devil studies us daily, so he knows our weak areas, and those are the areas he will tempt us in. If we don’t seek The Lord, we will continually fall into sin. Many Christians do not realize that Christ has broken the curse of sin from our lives and we are new creatures in Him. We sometimes lose our focus by “ministering”, tweeting, or even blogging about Christ that we actually forget to spend time with this God we love. God actually desires to have a personal relationship with us, which is why He sent His Holy Spirit to us. Ministry will not justify us or shield us from sin, but the closer we are to God is the more secure we will be.
And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:13)
Following Christ has to become our lifestyle, not just one of our hobbies. We cannot ignore Him during our week and want Him to bless us when we have a need. I have seen it done many times and I have done it as well, whereas a Christian will give God most of their life and try to hold onto certain things themselves (especially sins that they want to continue in). Many of us want to be saved from Hell, but not from sin. Jesus came to do both, we have to let go of something’s to hold onto Jesus. We can’t walk hand-in-hand with Jesus and the devil, we can only serve one master (Matthew 6:24). Part time obedience to God is full time disobedience. We must understand that it is a privilege to be a Christian, we cannot simply give Him what we want or what is left. That is why God accepted Abel’s offering and not Cain’s. God wants the best from us, not just a portion of what we do not want. God cannot use 50% of us, but the devil will gladly accept it.
God can only fill us to the level we want to be filled. God cannot fill someone who is full of themselves. We have to ask God to empty us before we ask Him to fill us. God will not pour Himself into a dirty vessel, so we have to continually draw closer to Him so that sin doesn’t separate us from His will. If we choose not to make the adjustments, that’s fine, but God will not dwell within us. I pray that we develop an unsatisfying hunger for the presence and Spirit of God (Matthew 5:6).
10 simple ways to draw closer to God:
1. Pray more! It’s a Christian’s duty to pray (Matthew 6:5-7).
2. Study the word of God and apply it to our lives (James 1:21-25).
3. Fast, it places the flesh under subjection and allows God to work in our lives (Isaiah 58)
4. Turn OFF the television more- most things the media portrays is AGAINST biblical beliefs (1 Peter 2:11).
5. Less time on phone and social networks (1 John 5:21).
6. Get rid of company that encourages sin and associate with those that love you enough to correct you (Proverbs 13:20).
7. Kill all of the sins we used to practice, even if they “feel” good (Galatians 5:24).
8. Being active in church, God gave gifts for us to use for His glory (Matthew 25:14-30).
9. Love people more- The world will know we are His disciples by our love for people (John 13:35).
10. Live life Christ, and don’t change to look like the world (Romans 12:2).
Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, (Hebrews 12:1)
There are many things in our lives that are probably not “sins”, but they are weights. We all have a race to run and we should not try to run with them, because that’ll slow down our progress or even burden us down until we give up on running. Things such as video games, social networks, and lets be real, some of the relationships we are in (whether dating or just friends) are simply slowing us down from growing or drowning out God’s voice in our lives. God’s word says to be holy (1 Peter 1:16), but if we spend our time with secular music saying “take your clothes off”, we are allowing these outside sources to go against the voice of God in our lives. Some may say listening to secular music isn’t a sin, but why would a single person listen to music that encourages sex and God commands purity? We must be careful not to allow these weights to become sins in our lives. Not judging whatsoever, if you disagree you can disregard; and what a married couple listens to is none of my business, allow God’s spirit to lead you. Just remember that we should stay away from things or people that give us ungodly urges or temptations.
Abstain from all appearance of evil. (1 Thessalonians 5:22)
Don’t publicly bash what you privately condone. We have to live what we preach. I urge each and every reader to leave this blog and do something, make a commitment. Not to me, but to you and God. Maybe you found this blog boring, unbiblical, or even great, but it makes no sense to hear a Word from The Lord and not try to apply it. You aren’t perfect, but neither am I. Together we can move forward and grow one day at a time, closer and closer to Jesus. Continue to seek The Lord, God bless!
– Tovares Grey


Temporary Loss for an Eternal Gain

“Come, follow me.” – Jesus. If you are reading this blog, you are either a Christian or God is calling you to His kingdom now. We have all either answered God’s call or are still contemplating. Should I? Should I not? I don’t want to get saved and have to leave the church. Should I turn to God and then be a hypocrite because I can’t live a perfect life? These questions are all normal, but just remember this: You cannot clean up your act before you come to Christ, He is the one that will change you. You will never be “ready”, its just something you have to do and allow God to take control. God loves you enough to take you the way you are, but He loves you too much to leave you that way. We only mess up when we don’t allow God to take complete control and we try to run the show.
All of us have been in relationships (whether it being family, dating/marriage, or coworkers/classmates), and we have all known that a relationship is a two way street. If you want the relationship to work and grow, you’ll have to sacrifice. More time to listen to one another, help one another, give to one another and even correct one another in love. The point is, love is a sacrifice. God loved us all on the earth but no one would have believed He cared if He didn’t let Jesus die for our sins. No one will believe their partner cares if they never listen, never show affection or even help. God knew love required a sacrifice. That’s why if we love God, we must sacrifice some things.
If ye love me, keep my commandments. (John 14:15)
– If we never obey God, we don’t really love Him. We may be infatuated, but the truth is, we sometimes like what we can get, not who He is.
– Loving God means loving what He loves and hating what He hates.
– The same way God sent the ultimate sacrifice, is the same way we must sacrifice our old lifestyles for a genuine relationship with God.
– We can’t be the bride of Christ while dating satan. Break up with sin so you can find true life in Christ.
If you’re a Christian and it didn’t cost you anything, then something is very wrong. Here are a few things that must take place in the life of a believer:
1. You should not be equally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14)
2. You should come out of the crowd and live consecrated/transformed lives (Romans 12:2 & 2 Corinthians 6:17-18)
3. The world will hate you for looking, talking, and living differently (John 15:18)
4. We will have stay away from sinful things that try to break us down spiritually (1 Peter 2:11)
5. We will have to love those who hate and mistreat us (Matthew 5:44)
6. Even though we are living righteous, we will experience troubles (Psalm 34:19)
7. We will have to run away from fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18)
8. We MUST kill our sinful desires (Galatians 5:24)
9. We cannot love this world or the things of the world (1 John 2:15)
10. We will experience traumatic losses, but we must trust God’s plan and not get angry at Him (Job 1:22)
Whoever said the Christian life was always easy lied, but it is always worth it.
For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us. (Romans 8:18)
– Whatever we go through is NOTHING, compared to what Christ has in store for us. We just have to be willing to say “not my will, but thine be done”.
– Tovares Grey



Have you ever reached to the point where you’re completely confused and just want to scream, curse, or do something you may regret? Asking God, “why me? What did I do to deserve this? How come I’m serving you the best way I know how and it seems the more I try is the harder it gets?” This is common in everyone’s life, your struggle may be different than mine, but we will all struggle.
Questions like these show us a few things:
• We either don’t read our bible or don’t believe it, because the bible says we will have problems.
• Your faith needs to elevate because fear is playing tricks on your mind.
• We expect God to give us an easy life, but that is far from the truth.
• We are not quite sure how God develops character.
God is saying in return, “Why not you? How can you be afraid because of bills, when I promised to be a provider? Why are you crying, because I allowed you to be sick? You won’t die, I want you to endure something for my glory. I can raise the dead and you question my power at every obstacle?
No matter how big your problems are or how confusing your life gets, always remember, God is in control. If I want to testify to nonbelievers that God is a healer, wouldn’t someone have to be sick first for me to know that? If I wanted the world to know that God is all they need, then wouldn’t I have to be down to nothing? We can’t testify of what we do not know or haven’t seen. God doesn’t like false witnesses (Proverbs 6:19). Someone has to go through something for us to know that our God is the only God and He is able to do great things.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. (Psalms 34:19)
• Afflictions are a promise from God. You will have to go through something if you’re a righteous person. However, the bible also promises that God will deliver us from them all!
• People breakdown under pressure when they’re not totally dependent on God. You were actually trusting in your own intellect, money, friends etc., but now you’re overwhelmed because your resources failed and your faith wasn’t in God. Put your faith back in Him, man will fail you.
Afflictions actually help you:
• Before I was afflicted I went astray: but now have I kept thy word. (Psalm 119:67)
• It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes. (Psalms 119:71)
• Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. (James 1:3)
• Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you: But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy. (1 Peter 4:12-13)
I cannot tell anyone that afflictions are easy to handle, that would be a lie. We just have to know, God wouldn’t give us more than we could handle. Half of the battles you face would’ve caused someone else to lose their mind! God knows He could ONLY trust you with this obstacle. His toughest battles go to His toughest soldiers. He gives us tough tests to show us how much potential we have in our lives. God has to break us down to pieces before He gives us that breakthrough! The anointing over our lives will not be recognized or maximized to its maximum potential until we have much problems to overcome.
It is time for this generation of believers to stop worrying and start worshiping. It is time for us to stop complaining and start praising. God is going to get the glory through you, if you allow Him. He’s refining you in the fire. Jesus couldn’t rise as king if He wasn’t first crucified. There will be no crown given to those who won’t crucify their will, flesh, and carnal mindset. God gives beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3), so you have to be burnt to get this beauty. I know this is a difficult thing to grasp or want to accept, but God also gave you another promise concerning this: If you suffer with Him, you will reign with Him (2 Timothy 2:12).
Children of God, you are not weak! Even if you are, God’s word said you are to declare that you are strong (Joel 3:10). Start turning to God in the midst of trials. Get into His word and His presence, don’t just turn to people. God has a purpose that He wants to fulfill in your life, will you allow Him?
God bless,
Tovares Grey