Church-goers Vs. Christians

We all love Jesus right? I’m sure you do, because you are probably reading this to check if you are missing something in your spiritual life! Don’t worry, only the people refusing to read this are the real sinners! Just kidding, relax relax haha. This blog isn’t to tell anyone who’s going to Heaven or Hell, because I can’t judge your heart. But these are points that are true and we all should examine our own hearts and motives daily.
So here are 7 differences between a Church-goer and a Christian:
1. Church-goers believe in Jesus. Christians believe and actually obey His commands out of their love for Him.

 “Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say? (Luke 6:46)

2. Church-goers attend church services when it’s convenient for them (possibly only on Easter and Christmas). A Christian is fully aware that godly community is not only enriching to their spiritual walk, but it is also biblical to have a “church” family to call their home.

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. (Hebrews 10:24-25)

3. Church-goers read their bibles when they want encouragement. Christians read their bibles so they can grow in their knowledge of Christ and so they can be conformed to His image.

I will delight in your statutes; I will not forget your word. (Psalms 119:16)

4. Church-goers will try to twist the scriptures to fit their lifestyle. Christians are changed from the inside out because of the scriptures.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2)

5. Church-goers wait until times are hard to pray. Christians understand that prayer is something we should do consistently because it is simply communication with God.

Pray without ceasing. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

6. Church-goers think repentance is something that will destroy them or is somewhat legalistic. Christians understand that sin is a barrier between us and God (Isaiah 59:2), but Jesus is willing to forgive all who repent.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)

7. Church-goers leave their faith inside of the “church” on Sundays. Christians understand that our love for God really shows in our lifestyle and ministry doesn’t necessarily start until the service is over.

And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. (Luke 9:23)

There are many differences between the typical fans of Jesus and His genuine followers. Judas was “close” to Jesus, but his heart clearly wasn’t as dedicated as it should’ve been. Many are in church, but many of us haven’t taken the step to actually becoming a disciple of His. If you haven’t taken that next step in your walk with Christ, will you do so today?
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

Idolizing Marriage

So you say that you want to be married. That’s fantastic! However, your desire may be delayed because of your motives. Why is our society so deceived into thinking that they can’t be happy until someone else comes along to give them worth? Marriage is so great, but it cannot complete. Good things cannot fill God’s role. Marriage is meant to be a blessing, but not your purpose on earth.
Okay, before I scare you away, let me get into the point of this blog!
There are so many people out there desiring marriage. That is so good, because marriage gives us an idea of just how much God loves us. Husbands are literally told to love their wives the way that Christ loves us. If that isn’t an indicator on how serious God takes marriage, I really don’t know what is. We are blessed with the gift of sex in marriage which gives pleasure and the ability to procreate. However, the problem arises when we want to be married more than we want Jesus. We seek a spouse before we seek the God who created us. Of course the all-knowing God could tell us who to pursue and who to stay away from, but we simply just hunger so much for the fairy tale love story that we forget all about God. Too many people are expecting a story like Love and Basketball, The Notebook or a Disney channel love story. I think many of us have the idea that marriage carries us into a happily ever after without problems, but is that the case? Every “romance” movie we watch, the movie ends with the highlights! The boy finally wins her heart. That pretty girl finally gives that guy a chance and they run off into pure bliss. The couple who broke up and moved on, somehow managed to run back into each other and fate would have it that their love is rekindled.
“It is definitely God’s will that I get my fairytale!” That’s just how it should be, right?
Wrong. Relationships don’t always go according to our plans….even if we love Jesus. Divorce rates are high just for the misconception many of us believe. You must know that no matter how awesome they are, they are still human. Perfection can only be found in Jesus, so do not hold an extra high standard for someone that cannot fill it. Marriages fail when God isn’t the center, but your idea of how marriage is. You both will have work to do, but you can’t grow if you two aren’t CHOOSING to forgive, love, cherish, respect and honor even when the feelings may fade.
Ever heard someone say they want a Godly spouse or someone following Jesus, but they aren’t even following Him wholeheartedly? That will never happen, you attract who you are not necessarily who you want. If you’re pursuing Jesus, then like-minded people will be drawn towards you; if you’re a lustful person, then that kind of person will be drawn to you. It is not God’s will for you to be with anyone holding on to the world. You two are going in opposite directions if they choose to remain lukewarm or unsaved. Keep your eyes on Jesus. Wait on someone you can pursue Jesus with. Wait for the type of person that will protect your purity and encourage you to seek Christ. So many want marriage so bad that they don’t take the time to evaluate themselves or the person they are with. God does not want us with anyone leading us away from Him. Love does not lead to sin. A Godly man/woman can commit to one person. Be careful of those wasting your time with their games. Do not say “I do” to someone who hasn’t said “I do” to Jesus. Committing to someone that doesn’t love God is only setting you up for a dead end relationship. If the two of you even last, you’ll still find yourself far away from God and that wasn’t your intention.
Are you getting yourself prepared for marriage, or do you just want a honeymoon, a ring and sex? Be careful of doing right things with wrong motives. Paul did say it’s better to marry than to burn with lust/passion (1 Corinthians 7:9), but keep this in mind: if sex is the only reason you are going into marriage, you’re not ready for it. Of course no one will be perfect before marriage, but be careful of jumping into it and you’re not ready for such a great commitment. It should be until “death do you part”, not until “looks fade and you run out of money”. Remember that it’s a lifetime commitment you are preparing for so do not rush into something you can’t handle. Guys, if you don’t want to commit then leave the girl alone. Stop trying to see how many hearts you can break before “settling down”. And vice versa, because some women string men along and try to get attention from him, but won’t give him the commitment that he desires. Divorce is only common because we are seeking guilt-free sex, a wedding celebration, someone to control and manipulate rather than a best-friend we can honor Christ and grow with.
Think about it, your heart is too valuable to just jump into marriage and you weren’t prepared for it. Rushing will lead our vulnerable hearts into sin, brokenness and wasted time. Choose today to be patient, wait on God to lead you and not our emotions that can easily change. His timing is perfect.
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

My Friends Don't Understand my Walk with God

Living for God is such an amazing experience that we get to enjoy daily. He changes our lives from the inside out and delivers us from many things that used to keep our hearts in bondage. Unfortunately, our “friends” don’t always see it that way. What makes it even worse is when our “Christian” friends don’t support us. I can understand a nonbeliever questioning my desire to pray or fast, but not a Christian. I can understand an atheist saying negative things about my attempt at a disciplined life, but not someone in the “church”.
“Bro, you are doing way too much!”
“Girl, chill. Stop acting overly spiritual.”
“Don’t be so ‘heavenly minded’ that you’re no earthly good.”
“I get that you say you want to do right, but all of those things are just leading to legalism or a self-righteous approach of earning God’s love.”
I have heard these things said to me and to others before; but what if I told you that your friend was doing you more harm than good by saying those things? What if they want to help you, but their “good advice” is not “God advice?” What if God is actually calling you into a deeper place of intimacy, but you will never experience it because of your company?
Anyone that makes you feel bad for being passionate about living for God is a distraction from the enemy. It is best to keep a healthy distance and pray for them, instead of having them keep you comfortable in a stagnant walk with God. I am not advocating for foolish or weird behavior, because God will use friends to explain the scriptures to us and tell us when we are viewing things wrong. I am saying that there should be no one in your inner circle that doesn’t want to see you grow into who God is calling you to be.
Let’s look at 3 major things every believer should do when their friends don’t support their walk with God:
1. Examine your friends.
I’m just going to make this plain, everyone isn’t meant to be your close friend. Jesus is our example of how to love and treat others, and even Jesus had an inner circle. Jesus preached to masses, did life with 12 disciples, and yet He only called Peter, James and John for certain situations. Did he love them more than the others? No, not at all, but He had a different purpose for them and possibly a deeper level of intimacy with them.
If your friends stop you from growing, then you two must address it or slowly drift apart. If your friends are struggling with the same issues as you, then accountability is hard. Instead of having the wisdom to help you out of it or the boldness to rebuke you in love, they will give you a pass (because they are struggling).
So again, check if your friends are growing and keeping you accountable. If they aren’t, they should not be in your inner circle.

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, WITH THEM that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22)


2. Challenge your friends!
This is something many never do because of fear, but why be afraid if the person wants to be in your life? Jesus had a rich, young ruler coming to him that seemed to have it all together. Jesus gave him one command, to sell his possessions and give it to the poor. However, the guy didn’t do it, and he went away sorrowful. What I find interesting about this is that Jesus never chased behind him. Too many of us are running behind people that God is not sending to us. If they aren’t willing to meet certain standards or to make any sacrifices, they aren’t willing to be in your life. If you are only valuable to them when it is convenient for them, that is not the will of God for your circle. Stop thinking you can’t push your friends to grow with you. If you aren’t doing so, you aren’t a good enough friend to them.
If I cannot tell you that you’re living beneath your purpose, I don’t love you. I should be able to genuinely say “get it together, you’re better than that” without it being taken as judgment. If you don’t have friends that do that, challenge them to challenge you. Pray for God to send people who will push you!

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. (Proverbs 27:6)


3. Be willing to find friends that don’t look or think like you.
This may sound simple, but this is one of the hardest tasks for a person. We will always naturally gravitate to those who look or think like us. It doesn’t matter if it’s politics or sports; we will feel more at ease when the person we are conversing with has things in common with us. Like for me, I have a few friends that act just like me. We can laugh and joke literally all day. The problem with that though is they will have my same issues so they may not pull me out of my spiritual valley. It wasn’t until recently when I started making friends with people who are of different races, denominations, financial status, various cultures, etc. that I hadn’t seen some things with a clear perspective. That’s like me being a guy with a Jamaican background and not going out to eat a lot when I was younger. So now when my wife and I want to go out or friends invite us out to eat, I don’t even know what to pick. Not because I’m super picky, I’m just not familiar with a lot and in need of someone to expose me to it.
How much is God trying to show you, but you aren’t able to see because it looks unfamiliar? How many people has God sent your way to push you into purpose, but you ignored them for being too “churchy”, “different” or too “weird”? Jesus gave Ananias clear instructions on what to do in Paul’s conversion. However, he knew how Paul used to persecute the church. God had to take him out of his comfort zone in order for Paul to be delivered, because he was possibly afraid of the things Paul would do to him. People may not be used to you or you with them, but you need others in order for you to be who God called you to be.

But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen instrument of mine to carry my name before the Gentiles and kings and the children of Israel. (Acts 9:15 ESV)

Your environment will play a major role in determining your destiny. God wants to bless your life and it requires the right people on your team and the wrong people can delay that calling. Not only can they delay purpose, but bad company will corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
DO NOT ALLOW SOCIAL MEDIA, FRIENDS OR TELEVISION TO TELL YOU WHAT TRUE LOVE IS.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

No Lust November

Welcome to the first day of #NoLustNovember! Everyone is familiar with “No Shave November”, but I wanted to do a weird twist on it and give Christians something they can relate to. This is a challenge for everyone to jump in on. I’ll be checking for this hashtag on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter and talking to you all so we all can hold one another accountable. 
Before you go any further, I have a blog on “Fighting Lust” that you can read here if you haven’t already. 

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)


One of the most dangerous things a believer can do is assume that they have it all together. The Bible says to be careful when you think you’re standing firm because that is when you’ll fall (1 Corinthians 10:12).
Many Christians are under the impression that they cannot fall into sexual temptation. I used to be one of those. I would wonder how are people being so gullible and consistently falling into the same sin, but I realized with my own struggles that it wasn’t something as simple as I assumed. Then there are other Christians that believe they cannot break that cycle over their lives, but that’s because they aren’t properly following God and establishing boundaries. Understand this, falling into sexual sin is common. I am not saying this to justify anyone’s sinful lifestyle. I am saying that so you can know as a reader that you can overcome in Jesus’ name and you don’t have to keep hiding your weakness. God’s strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Be willing to let go. 






But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. (Matthew 5:28-29)


When you talk about overcoming lust, many people target the symptoms rather than the real issue. So they’ll be willing to stop watching a certain show, but they won’t end the relationship. Or they will end the relationship, but they’ll still check up on the person. Sometimes we even overcome and then turn back to our filth. What I have realized is, Jesus isn’t a passive God. Jesus was so drastic in His teaching that many didn’t like Him and many turned away. If we aren’t willing to cut off what stimulates lust, are we tired of that lifestyle? No, we enjoy it but we don’t want its consequences. Sin never satisfies, it only pushes you to go further and further away from the presence of God. Are you disgusted with your sin yet? Ask God to remove those desires. Stop entertaining those desires and watch that sinful desire begin to fade out of your life. 
Be willing to examine your heart and take spiritual inventory. Some people shouldn’t still be in your life. Some shows shouldn’t still be on your tv. Some social media accounts should’ve been unfollowed months ago. Are you willing to let go of your past life to embrace what God has for you?




“But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭2:9‬)


What are you going to choose today? Your porn or Jesus? Your fornicating/adulterous relationship or Jesus? Your ungodly friendships or Jesus? Your music that corrupts your heart or Jesus? Your feelings or Jesus? Your lust or Jesus? Your pride or Jesus? 





“For my people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.” (Jeremiah‬ ‭2:13‬)


This scripture shows us that we as the people of God can easily backslide and choose things that can’t satisfy. The woman who met Jesus at the well was searching for Jesus, but she didn’t know it. No man could satisfy. She went from man to man and still never found true love until she met Jesus. That’s you and I. Searching for something to satisfy, and I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to choose lust anymore. 
So what do you say…….Challenge accepted? 
This journey is for everyone, but I don’t expect everyone to participate. If you desire more of God and less of that sinful cycle, then let’s get this party started! Jesus satisfies, trust me. Let’s not turn back. Forget what you did before starting this and let’s go back to the cross and the plan of God. 
What I need you to do!
1. Post a picture everyday with the hashtag #NoLustNovember so we can be engaged together! 
2. Post a verse, prayer, or your journal talking about what God is sharing with you on this challenge. 
3. Don’t judge anyone, just grow! 
4. Don’t quit WHEN you make a mistake. Not if! 
Grace and peace. 

Feeling Unqualified?

There are many people in the church that absolutely love Jesus, but have some “issues” that prevent them from being confident in who they are. I pray that we get to the understanding that God didn’t pick us because He thought we were perfect. He understands your issues, but He wants your heart.
There is only so much the devil can do, but I know for sure he cannot silence the mouth of a believer that is focused on on the will of God. Job went through a storm and was determined to still trust God (Job 1:20-22). The Hebrew boys decided to not serve a false God despite being threatened to their death (Daniel 3:17-18). Paul and Silas were in prison and decided to still praise God (Acts 16:25). The list goes on with many people who didn’t allow their confidence in God to end.

“So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you! Patient endurance is what you need now, so that you will continue to do God’s will. Then you will receive all that he has promised.” (Hebrews‬ ‭10:35-36‬ ‭NLT‬‬)

Even if our hearts will condemn us at times, the Bible tells us the solution to that feeling: “God is GREATER than our hearts” (1 John 3:20). You know that sin that you feel is to big for grace? It isn’t, God’s love outweigh our mistakes.
Let’s dive into a few scenarios that we all have fell into at some point.
1. You have a bad past that you don’t want to be “exposed”?
Many people don’t understand this simple concept, God is not like humans. God does not forgive some of our sins and keep track of the “big” ones, that is what we do at times. God is not saying “I forgive you on this condition”, but that is what people do. The church has to reach to a point when sinners, and even believers that have fell into sin, feel comfortable enough to come forward and seek healing (see James 5:16 and 1 John 1:8-10). And we also must come to the realization that God is a loving Father, not just a judge. Yes, sin should never be taken lightly, but understand that Jesus died for you on purpose. He knew when you’d fall, so don’t be ashamed of your past. Let your past be your testimony.

Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. (Isaiah 1:18)

2. You feel as though you don’t have the resources or capability.
I don’t know how your spiritual walk has been, but I know for a fact that sometimes I feel inadequate or simply unable to do what God has called me to do. It’s crazy that I’d think that because He’s the one doing the work, I’m just the vessel. We place so much on ourselves and we don’t even realize all that does is take the glory for ourselves. I pray that God will strip away any pride I may have so that I can do His work willingly and with passion, without fear of how it would turn out. 
Moses didn’t believe he could speak well enough (Exodus 4:10), but God used him. David committed adultery and caused innocent blood to be shed, yet God restored him and called him a man after His own heart (Acts13:22). Paul used to persecute the church. Peter denied Jesus (Matthew 26:70-74). Jonah was disobedient and God gave him another chance; the guy was even suicidal. Pause for a quick second! You can be a child of God and get tempted with those thoughts! Please don’t cave in to suicide, allow God to give you His peace. Your valley moments are when you need to trust God the most, not isolate yourself. As we were….. God can use you despite those things you struggle with. Paul said God gave him a thorn in his flesh to keep him humble (2 Corinthians 12:7-10). Jesus said He would NOT remove the thorn, because His grace was sufficient in our weakness. Quit expecting God to remove those desires and struggles all of the time. God does remove ungodly desires as we spend time with Him. Other times, God allows us to have struggles in our flesh because it FORCES US TO RELY ON HIM FOR STRENGTH. Use your weakness to your advantage, seek God constantly and wholeheartedly.
You lack nothing, use what God gave you. Don’t compare yourself to others, be who God called you to be. You aren’t behind in life, your goal is not to keep up with others, but to be in the will of God.

“Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the Lord unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the Lord of hosts.” (Zechariah‬ ‭4:6‬)

3. You are still in a sin that you know is wrong, but you don’t want to be delivered.
There is so much to say about this, but the truth is, you may already know it. You know God doesn’t want you out there in sin. You know sex outside of marriage is wrong. You know that stealing, partying, carnal lifestyle isn’t building you up, it’s simply making you numb to the voice of God. I won’t try to scare you straight, because I’m sure God is talking to you already if you’ve read this far. Please, just come home. I say this as a brother in Christ, we need you. There is no such thing as happiness outside of the will of God, it’s only temporary. There’s no peace outside of God’s will, only bondage and a constant need for more even though your flesh won’t be satisfied. Let go of that secret sin, you can’t grow with it.

“Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.”‭‭ (James‬ ‭4:8‬)

I’m convinced that since the devil can’t stop us from getting to Heaven, he will try to stop us from fully realizing Who we belong to. We have to understand that it doesn’t matter what insecurity or “issue” we have, God is faithful and will use us if we allow Him. God works on our willingness, not because of how “great” we are. You can make a difference today, will you allow God to work in your life?

Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

How do I Know If They're "the one"? 

How do I know God’s will for my life? Who does God want me to marry? Are they going to be attractive? Will they workout often? Are they spiritual? Is the person I’m with a blessing or a burden?
These are just a few of the random questions that plague our minds when we are single or are contemplating marriage. There is nothing wrong with taking great thought into marriage, the issue simply occurs when we allow our emotions or our friends to bring clarity rather than praying and waiting on Jesus to give us direction. You see, it’s nothing wrong with me being single, if I’m single and using my singleness to honor Jesus. Meaning I’m honoring God through my inward (thoughts and desires) and outward (actions, entertainment, dressing, etc.) purity. It’s also nothing wrong with being in a relationship if I’m using that relationship to glorify Jesus and not turning that person into an idol/besetting sin (see Hebrews 12:1).
“There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand.” (Proverbs‬ ‭19:21‬)
The majority of us want to be married, and I strongly believe it isn’t God’s will for anyone to be alone. By alone I do not mean “single”, I mean isolated and having a mindset that you can do everything by yourself. Desiring company, whether that simply being godly friends or a spouse that you can honor God with, is a good desire to have.
“Ye did run well; who did hinder you that ye should not obey the truth?” (Galatians‬ ‭5:7‬)
Whoever we date/marry will influence our spiritual walk. Maybe you missed that so I’ll say it again for anyone who hates that fact, WHOEVER WE DATE/MARRY WILL INFLUENCE OUR SPIRITUAL WALK. Too often there are believers that feel it’s okay to date nonbelievers. While that is not the right thing to do biblically (2 Corinthians 6:14 and Amos 3:3), it really isn’t safe. We may feel as though we are leading them to Jesus, but why couldn’t we do that outside of dating? Isn’t witnessing God’s will for us? We are to win souls for the kingdom, not date people into a relationship with Jesus.
For those wondering how good looking their spouse will be…. Of course the person you marry will be attractive to you, God knows that you will see more than their spiritual walk. However, everyone who is attractive or is interested is not supposed to be an option for you. That six pack isn’t a strong enough foundation for marriage. Those curves may look nice, but they do not raise your children or determine if someone respects you.
You want to know how to tell whether someone is “God’s will” for you? Seek God for yourself! If you don’t know truth, a lie will always deceive you.
“All men/women are the same”.. You’ve heard it before, but the reason they’ll keep ending up with those types is because we haven’t surrounded ourselves with God. Evil can’t stand in God’s presence, so the more you seek Jesus is the more you’ll see Him weed out the bad influences in your life. We can study a lie so we know how to resist it, but then the enemy will bring another lie. It’s not enough to understand your enemy, you have to understand Jesus as well so that you can be alert against every possible attack/distraction coming in.
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:” (John‬ ‭10:27)
Just because we believe in Jesus does not mean we have a relationship with Him. God wants us to keep coming close to Him. We can’t be satisfied with where we are. The closer we get to Jesus is the further we are from distractions, and that’s definitely the easier way to recognize when something isn’t God’s will. If someone comes along trying to get you to do the opposite of what God is telling you, then it is no way that God wants you to be with them (see James 1:13-15).
Grace and peace.

Breath of God

And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7)
God formed man out of dust. We were nonexistent, nothing to be admired, looked on or of even worth. Even when God formed us, we had no use whatsoever. Adam BECAME a living soul AFTER God breathed into him.
This is the very reason we need the breath of God to blow on and within us. Without God’s spirit we would still be dead and useless. Without His spirit, we would still be in sin, the world, and lost without a hope of salvation. When Jesus’ death reached our hearts and the moment we surrendered to Him, God breathed life into us.
God uses the outcasts, the rejected, the broken, poor, and the weak to show the world that we are all nothing without Him, but we can do everything THROUGH Him. It isn’t about where you came from, as long as God is behind you, nothing can stop you (Romans 8:31). Degrees, beauty, riches, and popularity doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that God is with us, nothing will be able to stop us then.
The children of Israel were labeled as a valley of dry bones (Ezekiel 37).
– Dry bones have no more use, you surely cannot find anything to do with them.
– There was absolutely NO life in them, so you know people ignored and gave up on them.
– When Ezekiel prophesied and believed God, The Lord breathed on the bones and they began to come together.
– Not only did they come together, but they became a great army.
It doesn’t matter how insignificant you were, when God breathes on you, you become great and you’re equipped to do His work.
– Moses had a speech impediment, but God used him.
– Timothy was young, but God used him.
– David killed and committed adultery, yet God used him.
– Paul was once a murderer of believers and turned into a GREAT missionary.
– We have our imperfections, flaws and carnal ways that make us feel that we cannot fulfill God’s call, but if you feel that way just ask Him to breathe on you once again. David was still a man after God’s heart. Many may judge you by your mistake, but you are not your mistake. You’re God’s child!
When God breathes in you, your spirit is awakened. Pray for God to breathe on you once again. Even if you feel He’s not listening, just keep seeking. Keep praying and reading His word. His word says He will fill you when you are hungry/thirsty.
In the beginning, when God decided to make the world, His Word says the earth was void and without a shape. However, it said that the Spirit of God moved on the waters (Genesis 1:2). God had to move on the earth before He went further. God wants to breathe on us once again. In the book of Acts, God poured His spirit out while the people were praying (Acts 2). That’s because He said in Luke 24:49, that they should wait for Him to empower them. Acts 1:8, said the Holy Spirit will give us power. Let’s not go further without asking God to breathe on us, ask Him today. God bless!
– Tovares Grey

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Keep Calm

You are human! I know when times get hard, the first thing we often tend to do is get worried. We all know we should pray and let God handle it, but we often try to take things into our own hands and take up unnecessary stress. We try to carry something only Jesus can fix. Not saying you doubt God, because it’s human nature to do things like that.
If you’re thrown into a pool and cannot swim, you will not keep calm. You will panic! Even if there’s a lifeguard, you will panic. If you don’t have enough money to pay for bills or take care of your family, you will sometimes be worried. These are natural human tendencies. Which is why Jesus calls us to have faith in Him. Without faith, it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6). Because you first have to believe He is there even if you cannot see Him, and you must believe He is able to handle your situations.
The children of Israel were delivered out of bondage by God, through Moses. They knew God was powerful, because they saw all of the plagues He done, but yet didn’t allow them to harm the Israelites. However, when they were out of Egypt they were still afraid for their life when they came to the Red Sea. Doesn’t that sound like us? God took us out of hard times, but the next time we have a problem we get worried as if God retired? God paid your bill last month, can’t He do it again?
And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever. The Lord shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace. (Exodus 14:13-14)
We all know the story of how God allowed them to pass through on dry ground buy destroyed the Egyptians in the sea. However, my point is this: God is able to handle your situations, just keep calm and stop stressing! If God could do something so unexplainable by splitting a sea open, why can’t He save your family, pay your bill, deliver you from problems? We all trust Him, but we must know that praying and worrying contradict one another. If you pray, don’t worry. But if you worry, don’t pray. You cannot say “God, You are able” and then say “God, I doubt you will do this for me”. Choose to trust Him.
One of the keys to God handling our problems, is that we must hold our peace. To be honest and not judgmental, some of us talk too much. We are the ones getting ourselves into problems by all of our words. We call people our “haters” and say “they can’t handle the gift God has given me”, but the truth is we can be so arrogant that people move away from us. Jesus wants us to speak when necessary, just keep it simple (Matthew 5:37). Too much talking leads to sin (Proverbs 10:19).
Here are a few situations you will find yourself in today, this week, or soon:
1. Someone will offend you and you will want to retaliate in a “non-Christian” way.
– Hold your peace and let God fight for you. Let God repay those who mistreat you (Romans 12:19).
2. May not have enough finances to handle a situation.
– God will supply every need, but not our greed (Philippians 4:19).
3. A rough period that seems unfair to be in.
– The righteous will be afflicted many times, but God will always deliver (Psalms 34:19).
4. Teacher/boss/parent will deal with you harshly.
– Nothing we do is for people, so continue working hard even when they’re cruel (Colossians 3:22-25).
5. You will be faced with the guilt of your past.
– Don’t argue with the person or beat up on yourself, just know that you’re forgiven when you confess it to God and ask for forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
You will not face anything that God cannot handle. Never stress over your obstacles, there is a purpose for the pain you have been experiencing. God will make you better, and He always exalts the humble person (1 Peter 5:6). Just keep calm, and let The Lord fight for you. God bless!
– Tovares Grey

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Stop Cheating

I am not sure what’s worse: being in a relationship with someone who you believe is interested in someone else or being with someone that you know is cheating on you. No one likes relationships that make them feel unloved or under appreciated. Typically, you will tell the person you are through with them if they don’t try to make it work. After all, a relationship requires two people making commitments right? Til death do we part…
Sadly, in today’s society many misunderstand (or don’t care to understand) what it means to be in a relationship with God. If you are committed to God, why are you flirting with sin? Everyone who believes there is a Heaven, plans to go to there. Yet we live like Hell isn’t real. We sometimes operate as “Christian atheists”: believing God is real, but living as though He doesn’t exist.
They profess that they know God; but in works they deny him, being abominable, and disobedient, and unto every good work reprobate. – Titus 1:16
Moses is considered as a Old Testament messiah, meaning what he did for the people of Israel is what Jesus did for us. Moses went to pharaoh (the devil), and commanded him to let God’s people go. After they were finally released from Egypt (sin), God gave them specific instructions on how to live. Everyone who decided to murmur and disobey would be cut off. Now as Christians, we are so blind to biblical reality. Yes, it is true that God is merciful and full of compassion, but it is also true that God is still a God of wrath. God is such a wonderful boss that He always pays fairly. If you live in sin, you’ll be rewarded (not with eternal life, but with what you worked for), and if you live right, He will bless you!
For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. – Romans 6:23
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. – Galatians 6:7-8
Many new preachers are on the rise with a false doctrine. Telling people, “just believe, tweet about God, wear a Christian t-shirt, and go to church and you’re on your way”. Not once have they told the person that grace is a free gift to those with a repentant heart. God cannot bless mess, that is why the scripture says, “Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,” in 2 Corinthians 6:17. After preaching salvation to the onlookers on the day of Pentecost, Peter told them to “repent”, see Acts 2:38. You can’t baptize someone who didn’t repent. It is illegal to bury someone who is still alive! God is holy and will not contaminate Himself. We have a part to do in this relationship.
Being saved means, there is a separation! As children of God, we shouldn’t try to dress, talk, act, or be apart of the things the world does. If you dress and talk like “children of darkness”, how will they see God’s light? We can’t tear down satan’s strongholds if we can’t even turn off our television/cell phone. We can’t lay hands on the sick and they’ll recover if we spend time in pornography and not in prayer. We can’t share the Gospel with the same mouths we gossip with!
Remember this: “whatever you feed will live, and what you starve will die.” If you only feed your flesh with ungodly music, tv/movies, or even bad influence from friends, garbage will come out. If you feed your spirit with prayer, fasting, studying and applying the word of God then it is a proven fact you will grow in your relationship with Christ! Imagine if an athlete decided to eat McDonald’s all day, every day. What if he even decided to not show up to practice and decided, “I made the team, now I can do whatever I want!”. Do you honestly think she/he will be as effective? There is a high possibility that the coach will bench them or cut them off the team for taking it as a joke. If you can understand that, you can understand this: God is seeking for obedient, willing and diligent followers, not for church goers. The devil himself can go to church, we need a relationship! Being a Christian is a privilege, not a to-do list!
Jesus is the only God to come to earth and die for the sins of the world. Did he have to? No. People in the Muslim faith have the belief that Allah is God. They’re told this from a man named Muhammad. Christians will say they have the wrong belief, but yet the Muslim will still pray more and are more obedient to their god then we are to ours. I don’t believe in comparing religions, because I don’t even see Christianity as a religion, but more so as a relationship. Yet the question remains, if we love our God so much, why won’t we obey Him? Of course everyone will make a mistake, but why do we blatantly ignore biblical commands?
If ye love me, keep my commandments. – Jesus (John 14:15)
If you really want to be close to God, you have to learn to let go of sin. This is tough because of course, you’ve practiced it for so long and even found pleasure in it, so I know it is hard to break a bad habit. Yet, it can be broken. Build new habits. If you are in Christ, you have a clean slate. If you sinned after becoming a Christian, there is still grace for you when you are willing to repent (turn away from sin). One cannot draw closer to God, and be close to the devil at the same time! Choose a side, but don’t be in the church speaking in tongues and cursing people out. I know that girl/guy is tempting, but we have to say no to our flesh every single day we wake up, and tell God “yes” in our spirit! Holiness is underrated and sin is overrated. Living like Jesus did is supposed to be our goal, not punishment. Let them call us “too holy”, the bible said to be holy. I rather please God than my flesh or people who take God as a joke.
Don’t give up on yourself. This isn’t impossible, because you can do all things through Christ. Choose to seek The Lord, sin is not worth your soul. I pray that you continue to grow in The Lord. Always remember, His grace is sufficient.
God bless,
Tovares Grey

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