Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

Stumbled back into Lust? #NoLustNovember

Hey guys! Day 6, and I know some of you are absolutely amazing and you are just kicking your old lifestyle out and seeking Jesus like never before. However, I am realistic and I know this isn’t the case for all of us. Have you made a mistake since the month started? Have you looked at lustful images and didn’t turn away like you should have? Is that girl’s body still in your mind, bro? Is that handsome guy still playing with your mind and emotions, sis? Did that song, movie, or conversation stir lust back up into your heart? Did you go to their house again knowing it would lead to fornication?

Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly. (Proverbs 26:11 ESV)

It’s crazy that we look at the men and women in the bible as being such perfect believers and that must have been the reason God used them, right? Wrong, God used them because they depended on His Spirit. God didn’t use them because they had it all figured out. Paul is someone I reference a lot, because he was a great example on how to live (other than Jesus). However Paul mentioned that he had a weakness he wanted God to remove. God told him “no”. He was telling Paul that His grace was sufficient for him and He would help him overcome his issues (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10). However, I want to draw your attention to Romans 7 (read all of it when you can). Paul mentions that the things he wants to do, he doesn’t do, but yet he finds himself doing things he doesn’t plan to do (Romans 7:15). Sounds familiar? Yes, because that is all of us serving Christ. We want to live pure and righteous lives, but we don’t at times. We want to hate sin at times, but yet we find ourselves falling into sin. Not only do we fall into sin, but we fall into the same one we repented of 831 times at the altar. However, I love how chapter 8 begins, because it stops focusing on our failures and points us to the solution – Jesus and His grace. You are not condemned. You are His. Don’t stay in your mess when Jesus died to free you.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. (Romans 8:1)

I’m here to tell you that it is okay that you messed up. The only people who mess up are the ones who tried. You can only break a fast when you are fasting. You can only become weary when you have been fighting. Falling is inevitable, because you are human. But that is why we have the Holy Spirit, to guide us away from temptation and to restore us when we fall. Are your actions okay when you sin? Not at all. Is God pleased with your decision to turn back to your sin? No, He wasn’t pleased. But I am here to tell you that it is okay for you to get back up again. No way am I telling you to keep committing your sin, but you have to understand that God expects growth, but He is fully aware that we are human. There is grace for His children because we cannot do things on our own (Psalms 130:3). You don’t have to stay down just because you fell into the same mess. You can and you will overcome, in Jesus’ name. You won’t overcome on your own, but you will when you decide to turn away from those things and people that are toxic to your spiritual walk.

If thou, Lord, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand? But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared. (Psalms 130:3-4)

So for those who have fallen, and for those will fall tomorrow, please get back up again. Be sorrowful, be remorseful, be sincere in your repentance and get back up again. Take a break from social media if you must. Unfollow some accounts if you’re failing. End some relationships if you see the cycle is repeating and no boundaries are being followed. Because it is one thing for your relationship to make a mistake, but it is another when it is just not God’s will for your life (read more about that here). Please don’t quit, let’s keep growing!
Remember to stay engaged with us! How?
– By using the hashtag #NoLustNovember on your pictures, statuses or videos that you’ll use to encourage others.
– Sharing what God shared with you during your devotion.
– Sharing a quick video about overcoming lust or a testimony.
Pray Psalms 51 when you get the chance.
Grace and peace.


Have you ever reached to the point where you’re completely confused and just want to scream, curse, or do something you may regret? Asking God, “why me? What did I do to deserve this? How come I’m serving you the best way I know how and it seems the more I try is the harder it gets?” This is common in everyone’s life, your struggle may be different than mine, but we will all struggle.
Questions like these show us a few things:
• We either don’t read our bible or don’t believe it, because the bible says we will have problems.
• Your faith needs to elevate because fear is playing tricks on your mind.
• We expect God to give us an easy life, but that is far from the truth.
• We are not quite sure how God develops character.
God is saying in return, “Why not you? How can you be afraid because of bills, when I promised to be a provider? Why are you crying, because I allowed you to be sick? You won’t die, I want you to endure something for my glory. I can raise the dead and you question my power at every obstacle?
No matter how big your problems are or how confusing your life gets, always remember, God is in control. If I want to testify to nonbelievers that God is a healer, wouldn’t someone have to be sick first for me to know that? If I wanted the world to know that God is all they need, then wouldn’t I have to be down to nothing? We can’t testify of what we do not know or haven’t seen. God doesn’t like false witnesses (Proverbs 6:19). Someone has to go through something for us to know that our God is the only God and He is able to do great things.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. (Psalms 34:19)
• Afflictions are a promise from God. You will have to go through something if you’re a righteous person. However, the bible also promises that God will deliver us from them all!
• People breakdown under pressure when they’re not totally dependent on God. You were actually trusting in your own intellect, money, friends etc., but now you’re overwhelmed because your resources failed and your faith wasn’t in God. Put your faith back in Him, man will fail you.
Afflictions actually help you:
• Before I was afflicted I went astray: but now have I kept thy word. (Psalm 119:67)
• It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes. (Psalms 119:71)
• Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. (James 1:3)
• Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you: But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy. (1 Peter 4:12-13)
I cannot tell anyone that afflictions are easy to handle, that would be a lie. We just have to know, God wouldn’t give us more than we could handle. Half of the battles you face would’ve caused someone else to lose their mind! God knows He could ONLY trust you with this obstacle. His toughest battles go to His toughest soldiers. He gives us tough tests to show us how much potential we have in our lives. God has to break us down to pieces before He gives us that breakthrough! The anointing over our lives will not be recognized or maximized to its maximum potential until we have much problems to overcome.
It is time for this generation of believers to stop worrying and start worshiping. It is time for us to stop complaining and start praising. God is going to get the glory through you, if you allow Him. He’s refining you in the fire. Jesus couldn’t rise as king if He wasn’t first crucified. There will be no crown given to those who won’t crucify their will, flesh, and carnal mindset. God gives beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3), so you have to be burnt to get this beauty. I know this is a difficult thing to grasp or want to accept, but God also gave you another promise concerning this: If you suffer with Him, you will reign with Him (2 Timothy 2:12).
Children of God, you are not weak! Even if you are, God’s word said you are to declare that you are strong (Joel 3:10). Start turning to God in the midst of trials. Get into His word and His presence, don’t just turn to people. God has a purpose that He wants to fulfill in your life, will you allow Him?
God bless,
Tovares Grey



In the hearts of all mankind, there is a gap in our lives that God leaves empty. That is a void that can only be replaced by Him. Unfortunately, so many of us seek to fill it with things of this world: relationships, money, power, sex, etc. Even modern day christians, we have Jesus in our lives, but we don’t always have a deep, intimate connection with Him. Yes we may encounter Him, but we don’t give Him the chance to dwell in us. Yes, many of us are filled with the Holy Spirit, but not all of us are led by the Holy Spirit.
What if I told you that God is tired of us cheating on Him? We love Him oh so dearly on Sundays or in church services, but we cheat on Him the rest of the week. Cheating on Him in sin. Choosing to please our flesh and indulging in things that God doesn’t approve of, instead of finding ways to please God more. How many times has God wanted us to put down the cell phones, turn off the televisions, get out of meaningless relationships, or just turn from sins we cling so closely to, but we decided to ignore His voice. We all have been in these situations, and God is really trying to get our attention. Sometimes God will allow tragedy or people to abandon us, so we can turn back to Him.
Imagine if we read more bible verses than text messages, we would know so much about Jesus. Imagine if we got so excited about Jesus as we do at sports events, pep rallies, or over famous musicians. The president election caused so much hype on social networks, what if we shared Jesus that very same way? Just think about it, what if we spent hours in prayer as we do hours on the phone or gossiping. The same amount of time we take to walk the malls, if we invested that time to just evangelize to at least 10 people, so much more people would be saved. We stand outside stores all night for phones, video games, or the best deals. Yet, it is so hard for us to pray all night, or at least for an hour.
If we continue to keep ignoring God’s call for intimacy, eventually we won’t hear Him calling anymore. God will always love us unconditionally, but He cannot force us to love Him. When we allow our eyes to be blinded with sin or carnal things, we lose sight of God. When we begin to listen to everyone but God: people, the media, and what society says, we won’t have ears keen enough to hear the voice of God. I can write this today because I know what it is to ignore God, we all have if we can be honest with ourselves. It is time to stop worshiping creation and start worshiping the Creator!
Just to clarify, being a Christian doesn’t mean you will never do anything outside of church. Of course you’ll like sports, shop, etc., but we should never allow these things to consume God’s time! Of course you’ll watch television, but you’ll know to be careful of what you allow your eyes to look and meditate on.
Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the Lord. (Lamentations 3:40)
Heavenly Father, I give you thanks and praise because You are a great God. I ask you for forgiveness for the selfish lifestyle I have been living and I ask you for grace. Grace that is sufficient to see my through my tough situations. Please give me the strength to turn from sin and to never look back. I want to be more than an ordinary servant. Help me to be willing and obedient, so that I can please You. Continue to guide me, each and everyday, Lord. In Jesus name I pray, amen.


Jesus is My Anchor

There are many things that a person can avoid and run away from, but a couple of things that will always be there no matter how much we want them to leave, are hard trials and sin. We will always end up in some sort of problem or difficult time. Then there’s the devil who wants to tempt you and make you disobey God by sinning.
In ships, almost always you can find something called an anchor. That is what they will use when it is either time to stop moving, or either the weather is unbearable and they need to keep steady before they get off track. Without this anchor, many ships would be destroyed in violent weather, and many ships would lose direction every single time they decide to set sail.
Being a Christian doesn’t mean you are excluded from problems. Honestly, I believe that is when problems seem to start. It’s just that a Christian and a nonbeliever is different, because we lean totally on God. A nonbeliever will turn to friends, family or their own resources. It is nothing wrong with that, but those sources aren’t guaranteed to always be able to help. Christians rely on God and no matter how hard the situation gets, you still have that peace because you know it’ll all work out for your good. There is not one problem that comes our way that God wasn’t aware of, or one He cannot handle.
Many different things come to knock us off course or try to make us move out of our place. However, the word of God will show us how to deal with any of those situations. For example:
• Low income or too many bills to handle:
– The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the Lord shall not want any good thing. (Psalm 34:10)
– But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19)
• Anxiety about different situations:
– Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
– Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Sickness or Disease:
– …..and with his stripes we are healed. (Isaiah 53:5)
– But unto you that fear my name shall the Sun of righteousness arise with healing in his wings;…..(Malachi 4:2)
• Ungodly(carnal) friends:
– Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33)
– My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not. (Proverbs 1:10)
– Stay away, (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
Temptation seems unbearable or you keep falling into sin:
– No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
– The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand. (Psalm 37:23-24)
These are only a few examples of things that come to take us off track. There is only one person who can keep us steady in life, and that is Jesus Christ. Trials will come from now until the day we die, but with Jesus in the vessel, we can smile at the storm.
How to get Jesus as your anchor:
• Consistent prayer
• Studying and applying the word of God to your life
• Fasting
• Denying self and seeking God
• Complete, not partial, submission
• Obedience
Always remember, that in this life, we will always have things that come to shake us up. We just have to know that Jesus will give us peace the entire time. Yes, the storms will come and the winds will blow, but Jesus can simply say “Peace, be still.”, just like in Mark 4:39, and your problems must cease.
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 15:58)
God bless,
Tovares Grey


The word of God…

The word of God clearly states that without the spirit of Christ, you do not belong to God (Romans 8:9). Yes, Jesus loves you, he loves everyone, but that doesn’t mean you belong to Him. 
– What is the spirit of Christ?
The spirit of Christ is the Holy Ghost which was prophesied by the prophet Joel (Joel 2:28-32).
There aren’t three separate spirits. God is a spirit (John 4:24) and Jesus also prophesied that he will send a comforter, John 14:16. Some believe that there is a ”Trinity”, but Jesus said ”I will come to you”, when he spoke of the Holy Ghost (John 14:18). 

Unfortunately, some churches don’t believe you have to receive the Holy Ghost to be saved. Which is contrary to what Jesus said. Jesus told Nicodemus that he must be born of water (Jesus name baptism) and be born of the spirit to enter the Kingdom of God (The infilling of the holy ghost), John 3:5-7

How do I know when I have the Holy Ghost? 
In Acts 2, we see the very first time God poured out His spirit on man, in the upper room. They were in one place and on one accord, showing us that God works mightily when there is unity (psalm 133). ”And suddenly there came a sound from Heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting.”(v2.). There must be an initial sound when one receives the Holy Ghost. 
Some preach you know the holy ghost is there when you produce the fruit of the spirit. False. You cannot live holy without first having the spirit of God in you. 
When men received the holy ghost in the Bible, they spoke in tongues:
· Acts 2:4
• Acts 10:44-46
• Acts 19:6
After you have those initial evidence, then you can claim you have the Holy Ghost inside of you, but don’t stop there. Now, you must produce fruit. You know the Holy Ghost is ACTIVE in you when you produce the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). 

If your church preaches that you don’t have to speak in tongues first, then obviously they’re false, according to scripture. Yes you may genuinely love God, you may have even confessed him as Lord and tried to turn from sin. However, Romans 10:9 isn’t the plan of salvation, Acts 2:38 is!

Confession is made UNTO salvation, confession isn’t salvation. 

Have you Acts 2:38 since you Romans 10:9? 

God bless!

The Truth of Salvation

Romans 10:9 has to be the most misinterpreted scripture in the Bible, when it comes to certain ”churches”. Some tend to believe and are quite convinced this is the process of ones salvation. However, this is actually the first step to ones salvation.
1. It is by grace that we have been saved, not by our works (Eph2:8). 
· We all can agree Jesus did the work, we do not ”earn” salvation. Nevertheless, we still have things to do to RECEIVE the free gift. 
· Some argue that baptism isn’t necessary. Therefore, contradicting the words that JESUS CHRIST spoke…..He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved..(Mark 16:16). So baptism is necessary. However, it wasn’t stated in this scripture. Why? Because it is not the plan of salvation, it is the first step to it.
2. Confession proves ones belief, but confession LEADS to salvation, it doesn’t complete it….”With the mouth confession is made UNTO salvation”(Romans 10:10)
Once one believes and confesses Jesus as Lord, they are not saved, they’ve made their spirits available for Christ to enter them. 

· ”Now if any man have not the spirit of Christ, he is none of his.” (Romans 8:9)
– Spirit of Christ = Holy Spirit. Which was the prophecy spoken of in Joel 2, which was fulfilled in Acts 2.

On the day of Pentecost (Acts 2) the Holy Spirit came; After the ascension of Christ, therefore his spirit. It was evident by others because of the tongues they spoke. Tongues is the INITIAL evidence of the Holy Ghost, after that the fruit of the spirit proves it is working (See Galatians 5). Peter and the apostles stood up and preached a sermon to the men who came around to watch. At the end, the men BELIEVED every word and wanted to be saved. They knew their belief wasn’t enough so they asked WHAT DO WE DO?!
(Acts 2:38) Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the NAME of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. 

After Christ left the scene, he gave his disciples the truth, the Holy Spirit so they can teach others. THIS was the plan for salvation. Repentance, Jesus name baptism (not titles), and the infilling of the Holy Ghost with the EVIDENCE of speaking in tongues. 

The apostolic church is the only church is the only church that baptizes and says in Jesus name. Others do titles according to Matthew 28:19. However they are false because they fail to realize Jesus is the father, the son, and the spirit. He was manifested in different forms but he is NOT a trinity. 
For proof of this check: Deu 6:4; Isaiah 43:11, Zech14:9, John 1:14, 1 Timothy 3:16.
Some say if Jesus is God, who was in Heaven while he came down? According to Jesus, in John 3:13, he said while on EARTH, ”even the Son of Man which is in Heaven”. 
The trinity, cogic, baptist, nondenominational doesn’t line up COMPLETELY with scripture. If it’s half truth, it is a complete lie. Paul said any man or angel preaching another doctrine, let him be accursed (Gal1:8). 
I urge you to study this if you don’t believe me, if possible find the nearest Apostolic- Pentecostal church where you can find the truth. Don’t believe what parents or leaders say if it is contrary to scripture. God bless you.