Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

Useless Worship

There is one thing ultimately that God requires from each and every one of us, worship. The angels have worshipped God since creation. Problems arose when lucifer tried to get that worship for himself and ended up being kicked out of Heaven. Now with a vengeance, the devil has been seeking for mankind to worship him instead of God. He even tempted Jesus, but Jesus told him that worship was only meant for God (Matthew 4:1-11). You must determine in your mind who you will worship. Don’t try to give half of your heart to both, you will ultimately lose in the end.
To what purpose cometh there to me incense from Sheba, and the sweet cane from a far country? your burnt offerings are not acceptable, nor your sacrifices sweet unto me. (Jeremiah 6:20)
In order to understand this scripture we must understand the significance of frankincense (incense) from Sheba. After studying, I have found out that Sheba was rich in gold and precious stones. However, the main source of wealth was in the exclusive trade of frankincense and exotic spices sought by neighboring kingdoms. So we see here in Jeremiah that the people were offering the best thing possible, with wicked hearts! Did you know it was possible for God to be disgusted by your worship? If something acceptable causes God to smell something sweet (Ephesians 5:2), why do we think if we give God halfhearted, lukewarm worship that God will take it? The two minute prayer when we wake up or are going to sleep is quite useless. These are the types of people that attend church faithfully, but never allow their bodies to be God’s dwelling place. We cannot settle at being saved from Hell, we must want to be saved from our sins as well.
Wherefore the Lord said, Forasmuch as this people draw near me with their mouth, and with their lips do honour me, but have removed their heart far from me, and their fear toward me is taught by the precept of men: (Isaiah 29:13)
Many talk Christian, not many live like Christians. God doesn’t require us to simply dress and talk a certain way, He wants us to behave a certain way. We cannot keep saying we are Christians and we’re living like atheists. We are simply sending the wrong message to unbelievers. Why would they change if we live just like them? Not only are we deceiving them, we are deceiving ourselves! The Bible says God wants us to be doers, not just hearers of the Word (James 1:22). It is time to wake up, Church! The world is decaying in sin and the Church will simply become Lukewarm if we do not wake up and worship God in spirit and truth!
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12:1)
The most acceptable worship anyone can give is their heart. You may never be the most talented, but God simply wants you. Even if you are a terrible singer, God is more concerned about the sweet aroma flowing from your worship. Of course I am not supporting legalism. We are not saved because we are good, but we must be good because we are saved. Jesus did not come to the earth and die for you to simply attend church. God wants a relationship with us outside of church. You may never be well educated and rich, but God can do more with a faithful person than someone trusting in their own accomplishments. God doesn’t need your ability, He only wants availability. Worship Jesus with your time, talents, and heart, not just with your mouth at Church.
Is worship your lifestyle or a Sunday hobby?
– Tovares Grey



There is one word that God wants to hear from everyone. One requirement to follow Him. What is it? “Yes”! Many will say “yes” on Sunday, and “no” or “I’ll think about it” the rest of the week. People tend to think they are doing God a favor, but God does not need us, we need Him. Without God, we are nothing; God without us, is still God. So we should clearly see that following Christ is a privilege and not punishment, so it must be taken more seriously. Part time obedience to God is full time disobedience. We have to learn to say “yes” to God even when we don’t want to.
What am I saying “Yes” to?
The plan and purpose of God. It is no longer what I want, who I want, how I want it, when I want it, etc. God wants us to love Him more than we love ourselves and others. We’ve made bad decisions our entire life, and since we know God is all powerful and wiser than we can ever imagine, we should place our lives into His hands. God is in control over Heaven, Hell and the world at the same time, we can’t even control our emotions. I think it only make sense to trust Him! Whether we want to obey or not, “yes” is the best decision to make. If we’re honest with ourselves, every time we have disobeyed God and did our own thing, we have made mistakes, ended up sin, been hurt or hurt someone else, or produced more bad than good. When God tells us to let go of something or to do something, it is not bad to wonder “why”, but it is bad to question God’s sovereignty and His wisdom. If God asks you to let go of someone or takes them out of your life, it’s because He has a better plan for you, there time is up in your life, or he was shielding you from harm. It isn’t for you to chase after them. If God tells you to let go of certain music, games, clothes, etc., it may seem hard, but it is for your benefit. Some of us entertain things that causes sin to be in our heart, and God is trying to uproot it from us. Some of us wonder why we are always upset, miserable, lusting, lukewarm, double minded and it’s because we are feeding our flesh with garbage. God wants us to feed our spirit and starve our flesh. What we feed will live, and what we starve will die. Say “NO” to what the devil offers, don’t try to bargain. It is not safe trying to figure out how much you could sin and still be considered saved. If we play with fire, we will be burned.
When I go before God in worship or prayer, I rather my heart be without words, than my words without heart. God doesn’t need me to say big or much words for Him to be pleased with my worship, He sees my heart. God seeks for pure worship, those who worship in spirit and in truth (John 4:24). So I don’t want to put on a show because I cannot fool God. I may seem “spiritual” to the onlookers, but can be God upset because I’m offering up a foul odor in His presence. We can’t use our hands to blatantly sin, and then lift it up before God without asking Him to cleanse us. We can’t say “yes” to doing ministry, but “no” to the way God wants us to live. Worship is also a lifestyle, not just what we do in church.
This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. (Matthew 15:8 KJV)
Your worship means nothing without a “yes”. Your singing, preaching, teaching, ministry, evangelizing, tweeting about God, Facebook statuses about God, memorizing bible verses, and everything else you do means NOTHING without a “yes”! God sees our motives behind everything. He knows whether we love Him or love the spotlight. I know this because people have said they look up to me because I know a lot about God, but I still fall short and I still have to correct myself and get back in line. I know whether or not I have a relationship with this God that I preach about. I cannot say you are saved or you aren’t, but I can warn you that “God is not, and was never playing”. Hell is real, just like Heaven. If we don’t start living what we preach, everything will be in vain. You may have messed up yesterday, and you may still be playing church, but it is never too late to tell God “yes”. That’s all He wants, you to surrender. Giving tithes, being nice, being a pastor or having a degree in theology doesn’t make you right in God’s eyes.
And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? (1 Peter 4:18)
And Samuel said, Hath the Lord as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the Lord ? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. (1 Samuel 15:22)
Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it. (Matthew 7:14)
Choose in your mind today, whether or not you’re willingly to tell God “yes” or to continue doing whatever you want. Just remember, that at the end of the day, God knows your heart.
God bless,
Tovares Grey


Praise Your Way Out

There are three types of people in this world.
1. People going into a storm
2. People that are in a storm
3. People that are coming out of a storm
It is not strange for a person to experience hard times. Even those we see and believe are rich, we do not understand their pain, or the hardships that they experience.
Problems are going to arise regardless, but there is a way to get out of them: praising and trusting God while you’re in the storm.
Read 2 Chronicles 20.
In this story, many rose up against Jehoshaphat to kill him and all of Judah. He couldn’t escape it. However, in his fear, he didn’t run away, he prayed.
– And Jehoshaphat feared, and set himself to seek the Lord, and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah. (Verse 3)
– We cannot escape the trials that come our way. However, the first thing/person we should turn to is Jesus Christ. He can deliver you.
As they prayed and sought God, the answer came:
Then upon Jahaziel the son of Zechariah, the son of Benaiah, the son of Jeiel, the son of Mattaniah, a Levite of the sons of Asaph, came the Spirit of the Lord in the midst of the congregation; And he said, Hearken ye, all Judah, and ye inhabitants of Jerusalem, and thou king Jehoshaphat, Thus saith the Lord unto you, Be not afraid nor dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God’s. To morrow go ye down against them: behold, they come up by the cliff of Ziz; and ye shall find them at the end of the brook, before the wilderness of Jeruel. Ye shall not need to fight in this battle: set yourselves, stand ye still, and see the salvation of the Lord with you, O Judah and Jerusalem: fear not, nor be dismayed; to morrow go out against them: for the Lord will be with you. (2 Chronicles 20:14-17 KJV)
God simply told them that they don’t need to worry, because the battle belongs to Him.
– When life gets rough we often try to defend ourselves and fight back. However, some battles were made for us to prove God. If we ever begin to rely on God, life would start to make more sense to us.
Read John 11
– Lazarus was dead. Jesus was a good friend of Lazarus, but he allowed it to happen.
– Martha didn’t understand why Jesus would let him die, but she didn’t understand why Jesus allowed it.
– Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, after four days. After he was stinking, rotting, and everyone lost hope.
Sometimes we have to be in dead situations for God to get the glory:
– Atheist or non-believing home
– Sickness/Disease
– Poverty or low income
– Only Christian in your school
If we trust God, no matter how scary a situation is, God can deliver.
Back to Jehoshaphat:
And they rose early in the morning, and went forth into the wilderness of Tekoa: and as they went forth, Jehoshaphat stood and said, Hear me, O Judah, and ye inhabitants of Jerusalem; Believe in the Lord your God, so shall ye be established; believe his prophets, so shall ye prosper. And when he had consulted with the people, he appointed singers unto the Lord, and that should praise the beauty of holiness, as they went out before the army, and to say, Praise the Lord; for his mercy endureth for ever. And when they began to sing and to praise, the Lord set ambushments against the children of Ammon, Moab, and mount Seir, which were come against Judah; and they were smitten. (2 Chronicles 20:20-22 KJV)
The only thing they had to do is give God praise and trust Him.
– God worked out the entire situation, because they had faith in him.
– No one had to fear, because they believed in their God.
Today, your praise can be used as a weapon as well.
– Their praise set up ambushments!
– When Joshua and the children of God shouted, the walls of Jericho came down.
– If the devil sends a million darts your way and instead of you crying, you start praising, I can guarantee he will be confused.
The other day a young boy at my church, Angel, was diagnosed with a brain tumor. They said surgery would make him become retarded, and no surgery will make him die. Very scary situation, if you don’t know your God. I was praying one night for him and God simply said “Shout with the voice of triumph” (Psalm 47:1). So I didn’t worry. Many others prayed, and now I can testify to the fact that Angel is healed and doing perfectly fine, without ever doing surgery! Not boasting about my prayer, just bragging on my God!
Today you may face something similar, or maybe bigger. However, we should never show God how big a problem is, we should show our problem how big our God is.
The devil can’t take much from a believer, but if he can get one to keep quiet, he has won a battle.
– Never lose your praise!
– When you say “Hallelujah”, the person next to you may receive some strength and gain the boldness to worship themselves.
– O magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together. (Psalm 34:3 KJV)
The next time you have a barrier in front of you, pray! Whenever you have a wall you can’t get over, call on God! Whenever you find yourself in a dead situation, prophesy over the dry bones like Ezekiel!
So the people shouted when the priests blew with the trumpets: and it came to pass, when the people heard the sound of the trumpet, and the people shouted with a great shout, that the wall fell down flat, so that the people went up into the city, every man straight before him, and they took the city. (Joshua 6:20 KJV)
However you worship is your choice, but never let situations keep you silent. Whatever your situation is, trust God. I’m believing for you and praying for my readers. God bless you all.
– Tovares Grey


You Have a New Life in Christ

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV)
– When we believe on Jesus, get baptized in his name and receive the Holy Spirit, we are apart of his body!
– We are now in Christ, so we are new creatures. We receive a fresh start. God forgives us of our sins and gives us the chance to walk and live right.
We should never believe that God is trying to condemn us. God is a God of wrath but he is also a God of forgiveness and a God of restoration!
– If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9 KJV).
– God forgives those who are bold enough to admit their sin and confess.
– Not those who just say sorry, but those who genuinely have the desire for change.
Of course God doesn’t approve of any sin we commit, but he surely will help us out of our rough situations.
Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. (Romans 6:4 KJV)
– God didn’t command baptism just for us to get wet and say “hey, I’m now a Christian.”
– Baptism was symbolic of our bodies dying to our old natures. Having our sins forgiven.
– You’ve been baptized, now receive the spirit and let Christ live THROUGH you!
– You should do your best to live differently. Not just different, but holy.
You will never become who God intends for you to be without total reliance on Christ!
– If you listen to man and don’t seek God, you will change, but you won’t be who God intended you to be.
– You can never overcome sin until you fully depend on God. Otherwise you will overcome some, but not the ones you are comfortable with. Even then, you’ll develop pride, thinking you can do it all by yourself.
One thing we must all learn to do is to STOP trying to please people!
– We can do so much and people will find a reason to start a problem with us.
– If you aren’t in school, they say you’re worthless. If you’re in school and have to miss a service to finish a project, you’re a sinner. Tell me something, do you really want to be a man pleaser or do you want to please God? Jesus Christ presents abundant life to you and me freely, let’s live for him!
– People, even the ones in church, will judge you. You have to know why you do, what you do. Don’t let people distract you from your dreams. Please God, don’t worry about them!
For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10 KJV)
If you haven’t given your life to Christ, I suggest that you do it today while you have the chance. Tomorrow isn’t promised to you. Today is the day to repent, today is the day to be baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and to receive the Holy Ghost!
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.” (Anon)
Be encouraged. Don’t let your joy be taken away by people or situations. Know that in the eyes of God, you’re his child. Be blessed, and remember to share this!
– Tovares Grey