A Love Letter from Jesus

February 13, 2016 — 3 Comments

My child, don’t let this world cause you to lose sight of me. I see you, I made you, I know the thoughts that I think towards you (Jeremiah 29:11). I want to bless you, but I need you to follow and trust me. You cannot earn my grace or my love, and you won’t lose it, but I need you to stay in my will. 
Many times you chased behind certain people that you didn’t need in your life, but I allowed you to go after them for you to see that they will never complete you. You chased that girl and she broke your heart. You chased that guy and he didn’t treat you how you deserved. I tried to warn you but you never noticed they were bad for you, but I want you to learn from those experiences. I am with you. I am with you. I will always be with you. Will you come to me? I beg of you to open your eyes and stop being amazed by the glory this world offers and see that it is all temporary! I love you and the place I am preparing is more beautiful than you could imagine. 
I see your pain. Not only do I see your pain, but I feel it (Hebrews 4:15). I understand your feelings and I know what it means to feel abandoned. I only came to this earth to redeem my people, and the people that I came for still rejected me (John 1:11). Yet your rejection will not stop my love for you. My love will continue to pursue you and change you if you allow it to. My love will bring healing, not a spouse. My love will restore you, not a person. My love will convict you, but it won’t condemn you. Stop trying to figure out why I love you and allow me to love you. 
The days are short and I am soon to return. Will you be chasing after me when I return or will I still find you pursuing worldly things? You can get that spouse and lose sight of me. You can get that job and lose sight of me. You can gain popularity and lose sight of me. However, when you pursue me first and my kingdom, I will take care of you. So come, come unto me and I will give you the rest that your soul desires. I love you.” 

– Jesus 


We all have those people in our lives that only come back to us when they have no one else entertaining their drama. You know, that ex that left you for someone else, but comes back when that relationship is failing? The person who you had to drop because the relationship only connected on a physical level, but they hit you up hoping you dropped Jesus?
“Hey stranger…”

Some people will only hit you up after you drop a nice selfie. They see you looking happy and they want to pop back up to see if that door is still opened. If someone can jump in and out of your life, that means you are not moving forward, neither are you closing the door to the person God removed from your life. One of the most dangerous things you can do in a relationship is give a permanent position to a temporary person.

Why give life to something that God killed? God will block the enemy from poisoning our hearts and minds from fruitless relationships, but we must decide to stop running back to the person He protected us from. Some relationships only lead to sexual sins, why respond to the messages? Some connections only lead to arguments, why keep hanging out with them? You think you are saving them? False, the bible warns us against connecting to the wrong relationships. 

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners. (1 Corinthians 15:33)

Quit giving the enemy access, guard your heart. Be extreme, let people say you are taking Jesus too seriously. You realized your brokenness the day God saved you from your sin, why run back to the lifestyle that doesn’t satisfy? Believers, you are better than what the enemy offers, and you are surely greater than your past. 

Declare this over yourself- I am worth more than a late night fling, I am worth the wait. I will not keep running back to the wo/man that God didn’t place in my life. I am not going to keep dating until I find purpose, my purpose is in Christ and I will wait until He leads me to the right person. 

So the next time you get that text saying they miss you, understand that they need prayer for restoration in Christ, not you. Don’t be a victim of another person’s boredom. 

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. (Proverbs 4:23) 


There are a few things every single should do before they think about marriage. Besides, why pray for something that you aren’t preparing yourself to handle? It’s easy to lose your blessing when your character isn’t ready to maintain it. So here are five quick things to do before marriage:

1. Seek God

One drastic thing people forget to do is to seek God. The first step to finding a “godly relationship” is to first find God. We often think a relationship will build our walk with God, but we must first have a relationship with God. Dating the wrong person can also slow it down. If you aren’t growing spiritually already, then you’ll only be more distracted when someone else is in your life. 

We have to first see God as number one in our lives and build our lives around our walk with Him, or else when someone becomes a part of our walk we will eventually fall so in love with them that we fail to realize that God isn’t anywhere in that equation. 

God can’t bless a relationship that excludes Him. So be sure you’re seeking Christ so you’ll find someone else who’s actively doing the same thing. 

“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭

2. Stop seeking unsaved people to convert and marry.

Many times we fall into sin or end up heartbroken is because we pursued what God didn’t want us to have. You see, God wouldn’t send someone your way and all that person does is lead you into sin or provoke lustful thoughts in you. God doesn’t tempt us with evil (James 1:13), so if you see a temptation coming you have to see the devil is feeding off of our sinful desires. 

Many of us just don’t take the bible seriously and that’s why the world is in such a corrupt state. Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 to not be “equally yoked with unbelievers”. What does that mean? To be connected to one another to the point where you go where they go. They used to yoke animals together so they can plow in the same direction. It’s clear you’ll interact with nonbelievers, but that doesn’t mean to take it further to the point where you’re emotionally connected. So understand this, when you’re connected to someone you’re going where they are going for the most part. If you date an unsaved person, you’ll be heading towards sin more than they’ll be heading towards righteousness. Understand that many people make mistakes and date non believers and God can always save them, but we can’t use that as the rule. God’s word said not to connect to a nonbeliever because we can’t change them, only God can change them so it makes sense to find someone God has already saved rather than risk your walk with God in order to find companionship. 
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

‭‭Amos‬ ‭3:3‬ ‭
3. Work on you.

Many people keep pursuing the “perfect one” for them, but are forgetting that person is also looking for someone of substance. We have to bring more to the table than our looks. 

I understand that everyone won’t have degrees or the highest paying jobs and that is perfectly fine, but have you learned how to do simple things like cook or clean? The time we spend single and pursuing everyone that interests us could also be spent investing into ourselves. 

Not having a brand new hairstyle or outfit every week isn’t what’s stopping you from finding God’s will. Sometimes we are stopping ourselves from a Christ centered relationship because we are seeking people rather than allowing Christ to direct us. 
4. Find your identity in Christ. 

The reason many don’t know their purpose in life is because they are seeking to find their worth in someone else. We can’t base our worth based on anything that we can lose. If you wait until someone else comes along to say that you are beautiful, you are appreciated or to compliment you, you forget to see that God already says that about us. God’s word says you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14). 

Start seeing yourself the way God sees you so you don’t need anyone else to fill a void in your life. Relationships are only to add to your life, God is the one who gives meaning to our lives. Colossians 2:10 says that we are complete in Christ. Stop trying to find someone else to do what Christ has already done.
“For my people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.” Jeremiah‬ ‭2:13‬ ‭
5. Get over your ex!

Many are rushing into relationships in order to be restored from previous hurt. God wants to heal you and restore you back into Him when you fall short or have been heartbroken, it isn’t fair to expect a new person to fill that void. If you still hate your ex or want to get back with them, you shouldn’t pursue someone else.

You shouldn’t ever hate your ex, no matter what they did. If they hurt you, pray for God to save them and work on them. But always pray for God’s will, because it makes no sense for us to chase something that God doesn’t want us a part of. I wouldn’t want to restore a relationship that God isn’t glorified and He was the one who separated us for our protection. 
“I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians‬ ‭3:14‬ ‭

Grace and peace,

Tovares Grey