My Friends Don't Understand my Walk with God

Living for God is such an amazing experience that we get to enjoy daily. He changes our lives from the inside out and delivers us from many things that used to keep our hearts in bondage. Unfortunately, our “friends” don’t always see it that way. What makes it even worse is when our “Christian” friends don’t support us. I can understand a nonbeliever questioning my desire to pray or fast, but not a Christian. I can understand an atheist saying negative things about my attempt at a disciplined life, but not someone in the “church”.
“Bro, you are doing way too much!”
“Girl, chill. Stop acting overly spiritual.”
“Don’t be so ‘heavenly minded’ that you’re no earthly good.”
“I get that you say you want to do right, but all of those things are just leading to legalism or a self-righteous approach of earning God’s love.”
I have heard these things said to me and to others before; but what if I told you that your friend was doing you more harm than good by saying those things? What if they want to help you, but their “good advice” is not “God advice?” What if God is actually calling you into a deeper place of intimacy, but you will never experience it because of your company?
Anyone that makes you feel bad for being passionate about living for God is a distraction from the enemy. It is best to keep a healthy distance and pray for them, instead of having them keep you comfortable in a stagnant walk with God. I am not advocating for foolish or weird behavior, because God will use friends to explain the scriptures to us and tell us when we are viewing things wrong. I am saying that there should be no one in your inner circle that doesn’t want to see you grow into who God is calling you to be.
Let’s look at 3 major things every believer should do when their friends don’t support their walk with God:
1. Examine your friends.
I’m just going to make this plain, everyone isn’t meant to be your close friend. Jesus is our example of how to love and treat others, and even Jesus had an inner circle. Jesus preached to masses, did life with 12 disciples, and yet He only called Peter, James and John for certain situations. Did he love them more than the others? No, not at all, but He had a different purpose for them and possibly a deeper level of intimacy with them.
If your friends stop you from growing, then you two must address it or slowly drift apart. If your friends are struggling with the same issues as you, then accountability is hard. Instead of having the wisdom to help you out of it or the boldness to rebuke you in love, they will give you a pass (because they are struggling).
So again, check if your friends are growing and keeping you accountable. If they aren’t, they should not be in your inner circle.

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, WITH THEM that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22)


2. Challenge your friends!
This is something many never do because of fear, but why be afraid if the person wants to be in your life? Jesus had a rich, young ruler coming to him that seemed to have it all together. Jesus gave him one command, to sell his possessions and give it to the poor. However, the guy didn’t do it, and he went away sorrowful. What I find interesting about this is that Jesus never chased behind him. Too many of us are running behind people that God is not sending to us. If they aren’t willing to meet certain standards or to make any sacrifices, they aren’t willing to be in your life. If you are only valuable to them when it is convenient for them, that is not the will of God for your circle. Stop thinking you can’t push your friends to grow with you. If you aren’t doing so, you aren’t a good enough friend to them.
If I cannot tell you that you’re living beneath your purpose, I don’t love you. I should be able to genuinely say “get it together, you’re better than that” without it being taken as judgment. If you don’t have friends that do that, challenge them to challenge you. Pray for God to send people who will push you!

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. (Proverbs 27:6)


3. Be willing to find friends that don’t look or think like you.
This may sound simple, but this is one of the hardest tasks for a person. We will always naturally gravitate to those who look or think like us. It doesn’t matter if it’s politics or sports; we will feel more at ease when the person we are conversing with has things in common with us. Like for me, I have a few friends that act just like me. We can laugh and joke literally all day. The problem with that though is they will have my same issues so they may not pull me out of my spiritual valley. It wasn’t until recently when I started making friends with people who are of different races, denominations, financial status, various cultures, etc. that I hadn’t seen some things with a clear perspective. That’s like me being a guy with a Jamaican background and not going out to eat a lot when I was younger. So now when my wife and I want to go out or friends invite us out to eat, I don’t even know what to pick. Not because I’m super picky, I’m just not familiar with a lot and in need of someone to expose me to it.
How much is God trying to show you, but you aren’t able to see because it looks unfamiliar? How many people has God sent your way to push you into purpose, but you ignored them for being too “churchy”, “different” or too “weird”? Jesus gave Ananias clear instructions on what to do in Paul’s conversion. However, he knew how Paul used to persecute the church. God had to take him out of his comfort zone in order for Paul to be delivered, because he was possibly afraid of the things Paul would do to him. People may not be used to you or you with them, but you need others in order for you to be who God called you to be.

But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen instrument of mine to carry my name before the Gentiles and kings and the children of Israel. (Acts 9:15 ESV)

Your environment will play a major role in determining your destiny. God wants to bless your life and it requires the right people on your team and the wrong people can delay that calling. Not only can they delay purpose, but bad company will corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

Follow Jesus, Not Emotions

Have you ever felt lost? Confused about a decision you have to make in your life? Whether it being a major in school, a career, who to marry, the list goes on and on.
It is very normal for a person to feel lost. Sometimes you do everything and still in the end you feel empty or lonely. The problem is not that we are lost, the question is, what are we using to find our direction?
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5, 6 KJV)
– The bible, to some, is unnecessary. Some do not see why they must read it. However, no matter what time or age it is, the bible is still relevant and accurate.
– Scriptures take effect in our lives if we are obedient.
– This scripture says trust in God with all of your heart and do not lean to your own understanding. We all have at some point, done things ourselves. We are either smart or wise because we have made bad mistakes and learn from them. Therefore, we sometimes just make decisions our own because we believe we can handle them without having to “bother” Jesus or pray about it.
– If we live our lives based off our heart and emotions, we will live very unstable and unfulfilling lives. For example, one person may say I want to earn 1 million dollars. After they get it, they aim for 5. After that they will aim for more. Proving money wasn’t their goal, it’s just human nature to want “more”. However, no earthly thing can fill the gap in our hearts that only Jesus is able to satisfy.
“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things,
and desperately wicked.
Who really knows how bad it is? (Jeremiah 17:9 NLT)
– We know that the bible does not lie. Which is why we must really understand this verse.
– Ever seen a humble guy just snap one day? (For example: Quiet kids who do random shootings at school). It is not because they were always mentally unstable, but no one can understand their heart. It is a very evil thing.
Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. (Psalm 51:10 KJV)
Do NOT, I repeat do NOT, follow your emotions. Follow Jesus Christ!
– Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. (John 14:6 KJV). Jesus did not say he was “a way” but “the way”. He is our way to salvation and he is the only one who can direct us in the right path.
– Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. (Hebrews 13:8 KJV). Jesus Christ never changes. We must follow him, because our emotions are surely not stable.
I am fully aware that because of our busy schedules, it is not as easy to find time to spend quality time in the word of God.
– It does not matter how busy we are though, we have to make time to be in the bible because that is our guide!
– Anyone to busy for God, is just too busy.
– The devil does not have to make you sin. If he can get you to not spend time with God, he has done a good job.
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. (Psalm 119:105 KJV)
– We are in a dark world, and we will stumble around if we don’t walk with our lights.
– We must keep the light in our hearts and minds so that we will always walk in the will of God.
Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. (Psalm 119:11 KJV)
It is true that sometimes we are really in the will of God, but with all of our problems it seems that He is extremely distant from us.
– That does not mean God has forgotten. Sometimes God is silent to see what you will do.
– Teachers do not help you during your exams. Parents sometimes move out of the way to give their infant the chance to walk alone. If they keep holding the baby, it will never learn!
Behold, I go forward, but he is not there; and backward, but I cannot perceive him: On the left hand, where he doth work, but I cannot behold him: he hideth himself on the right hand, that I cannot see him: But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold. (Job 23:8-10 KJV)
If God says no to something, do not feel rejected. God is just redirecting you. Jesus is with us step-by-step, but you will only know that if you know his word.
Jesus does not want us to just “hear of Him”. Jesus wants us to experience Him! We cannot live off of the testimonies of others, it is time to find out who is the real God.
I have heard of thee by the hearing of the ear: but now mine eye seeth thee. (Job 42:5 KJV)
Let’s decide today to spend more time to seek God in His word.
Continue to press. Do not procrastinate, you do not want to die a slow spiritual death. Never give up! His word is our bread, we need it to live!
But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. (Matthew 4:4 KJV)
God bless,
Tovares Grey

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