Idolizing Marriage

So you say that you want to be married. That’s fantastic! However, your desire may be delayed because of your motives. Why is our society so deceived into thinking that they can’t be happy until someone else comes along to give them worth? Marriage is so great, but it cannot complete. Good things cannot fill God’s role. Marriage is meant to be a blessing, but not your purpose on earth.
Okay, before I scare you away, let me get into the point of this blog!
There are so many people out there desiring marriage. That is so good, because marriage gives us an idea of just how much God loves us. Husbands are literally told to love their wives the way that Christ loves us. If that isn’t an indicator on how serious God takes marriage, I really don’t know what is. We are blessed with the gift of sex in marriage which gives pleasure and the ability to procreate. However, the problem arises when we want to be married more than we want Jesus. We seek a spouse before we seek the God who created us. Of course the all-knowing God could tell us who to pursue and who to stay away from, but we simply just hunger so much for the fairy tale love story that we forget all about God. Too many people are expecting a story like Love and Basketball, The Notebook or a Disney channel love story. I think many of us have the idea that marriage carries us into a happily ever after without problems, but is that the case? Every “romance” movie we watch, the movie ends with the highlights! The boy finally wins her heart. That pretty girl finally gives that guy a chance and they run off into pure bliss. The couple who broke up and moved on, somehow managed to run back into each other and fate would have it that their love is rekindled.
“It is definitely God’s will that I get my fairytale!” That’s just how it should be, right?
Wrong. Relationships don’t always go according to our plans….even if we love Jesus. Divorce rates are high just for the misconception many of us believe. You must know that no matter how awesome they are, they are still human. Perfection can only be found in Jesus, so do not hold an extra high standard for someone that cannot fill it. Marriages fail when God isn’t the center, but your idea of how marriage is. You both will have work to do, but you can’t grow if you two aren’t CHOOSING to forgive, love, cherish, respect and honor even when the feelings may fade.
Ever heard someone say they want a Godly spouse or someone following Jesus, but they aren’t even following Him wholeheartedly? That will never happen, you attract who you are not necessarily who you want. If you’re pursuing Jesus, then like-minded people will be drawn towards you; if you’re a lustful person, then that kind of person will be drawn to you. It is not God’s will for you to be with anyone holding on to the world. You two are going in opposite directions if they choose to remain lukewarm or unsaved. Keep your eyes on Jesus. Wait on someone you can pursue Jesus with. Wait for the type of person that will protect your purity and encourage you to seek Christ. So many want marriage so bad that they don’t take the time to evaluate themselves or the person they are with. God does not want us with anyone leading us away from Him. Love does not lead to sin. A Godly man/woman can commit to one person. Be careful of those wasting your time with their games. Do not say “I do” to someone who hasn’t said “I do” to Jesus. Committing to someone that doesn’t love God is only setting you up for a dead end relationship. If the two of you even last, you’ll still find yourself far away from God and that wasn’t your intention.
Are you getting yourself prepared for marriage, or do you just want a honeymoon, a ring and sex? Be careful of doing right things with wrong motives. Paul did say it’s better to marry than to burn with lust/passion (1 Corinthians 7:9), but keep this in mind: if sex is the only reason you are going into marriage, you’re not ready for it. Of course no one will be perfect before marriage, but be careful of jumping into it and you’re not ready for such a great commitment. It should be until “death do you part”, not until “looks fade and you run out of money”. Remember that it’s a lifetime commitment you are preparing for so do not rush into something you can’t handle. Guys, if you don’t want to commit then leave the girl alone. Stop trying to see how many hearts you can break before “settling down”. And vice versa, because some women string men along and try to get attention from him, but won’t give him the commitment that he desires. Divorce is only common because we are seeking guilt-free sex, a wedding celebration, someone to control and manipulate rather than a best-friend we can honor Christ and grow with.
Think about it, your heart is too valuable to just jump into marriage and you weren’t prepared for it. Rushing will lead our vulnerable hearts into sin, brokenness and wasted time. Choose today to be patient, wait on God to lead you and not our emotions that can easily change. His timing is perfect.
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

My Friends Don't Understand my Walk with God

Living for God is such an amazing experience that we get to enjoy daily. He changes our lives from the inside out and delivers us from many things that used to keep our hearts in bondage. Unfortunately, our “friends” don’t always see it that way. What makes it even worse is when our “Christian” friends don’t support us. I can understand a nonbeliever questioning my desire to pray or fast, but not a Christian. I can understand an atheist saying negative things about my attempt at a disciplined life, but not someone in the “church”.
“Bro, you are doing way too much!”
“Girl, chill. Stop acting overly spiritual.”
“Don’t be so ‘heavenly minded’ that you’re no earthly good.”
“I get that you say you want to do right, but all of those things are just leading to legalism or a self-righteous approach of earning God’s love.”
I have heard these things said to me and to others before; but what if I told you that your friend was doing you more harm than good by saying those things? What if they want to help you, but their “good advice” is not “God advice?” What if God is actually calling you into a deeper place of intimacy, but you will never experience it because of your company?
Anyone that makes you feel bad for being passionate about living for God is a distraction from the enemy. It is best to keep a healthy distance and pray for them, instead of having them keep you comfortable in a stagnant walk with God. I am not advocating for foolish or weird behavior, because God will use friends to explain the scriptures to us and tell us when we are viewing things wrong. I am saying that there should be no one in your inner circle that doesn’t want to see you grow into who God is calling you to be.
Let’s look at 3 major things every believer should do when their friends don’t support their walk with God:
1. Examine your friends.
I’m just going to make this plain, everyone isn’t meant to be your close friend. Jesus is our example of how to love and treat others, and even Jesus had an inner circle. Jesus preached to masses, did life with 12 disciples, and yet He only called Peter, James and John for certain situations. Did he love them more than the others? No, not at all, but He had a different purpose for them and possibly a deeper level of intimacy with them.
If your friends stop you from growing, then you two must address it or slowly drift apart. If your friends are struggling with the same issues as you, then accountability is hard. Instead of having the wisdom to help you out of it or the boldness to rebuke you in love, they will give you a pass (because they are struggling).
So again, check if your friends are growing and keeping you accountable. If they aren’t, they should not be in your inner circle.

“Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, WITH THEM that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” (2 Timothy 2:22)


2. Challenge your friends!
This is something many never do because of fear, but why be afraid if the person wants to be in your life? Jesus had a rich, young ruler coming to him that seemed to have it all together. Jesus gave him one command, to sell his possessions and give it to the poor. However, the guy didn’t do it, and he went away sorrowful. What I find interesting about this is that Jesus never chased behind him. Too many of us are running behind people that God is not sending to us. If they aren’t willing to meet certain standards or to make any sacrifices, they aren’t willing to be in your life. If you are only valuable to them when it is convenient for them, that is not the will of God for your circle. Stop thinking you can’t push your friends to grow with you. If you aren’t doing so, you aren’t a good enough friend to them.
If I cannot tell you that you’re living beneath your purpose, I don’t love you. I should be able to genuinely say “get it together, you’re better than that” without it being taken as judgment. If you don’t have friends that do that, challenge them to challenge you. Pray for God to send people who will push you!

Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. (Proverbs 27:6)


3. Be willing to find friends that don’t look or think like you.
This may sound simple, but this is one of the hardest tasks for a person. We will always naturally gravitate to those who look or think like us. It doesn’t matter if it’s politics or sports; we will feel more at ease when the person we are conversing with has things in common with us. Like for me, I have a few friends that act just like me. We can laugh and joke literally all day. The problem with that though is they will have my same issues so they may not pull me out of my spiritual valley. It wasn’t until recently when I started making friends with people who are of different races, denominations, financial status, various cultures, etc. that I hadn’t seen some things with a clear perspective. That’s like me being a guy with a Jamaican background and not going out to eat a lot when I was younger. So now when my wife and I want to go out or friends invite us out to eat, I don’t even know what to pick. Not because I’m super picky, I’m just not familiar with a lot and in need of someone to expose me to it.
How much is God trying to show you, but you aren’t able to see because it looks unfamiliar? How many people has God sent your way to push you into purpose, but you ignored them for being too “churchy”, “different” or too “weird”? Jesus gave Ananias clear instructions on what to do in Paul’s conversion. However, he knew how Paul used to persecute the church. God had to take him out of his comfort zone in order for Paul to be delivered, because he was possibly afraid of the things Paul would do to him. People may not be used to you or you with them, but you need others in order for you to be who God called you to be.

But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen instrument of mine to carry my name before the Gentiles and kings and the children of Israel. (Acts 9:15 ESV)

Your environment will play a major role in determining your destiny. God wants to bless your life and it requires the right people on your team and the wrong people can delay that calling. Not only can they delay purpose, but bad company will corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Grace and peace,
Tovares Grey

Stop Chasing Butterflies

I receive many questions from people who want to know how can they tell if someone is the one for them. We’ve made a YouTube video about the concept of “the one” and wrote a blog about knowing how you can tell if they’re the one for you, you should check it out if you haven’t already. However, it confuses me when someone says they’re with someone who’s amazing and loves God, treats them right, but something is missing.
“Well…. what’s missing?”
“I don’t know. I just don’t have those butterflies I’d expect to have.”

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9)

Can I tell you something that you know, but can easily forget? Your feelings will destroy you. Your feelings will have you running back to relationships that God delivered you out of. Your feelings will have you running back to abusive relationships, because you’re focused on memories instead of reality. Your feelings will have you thinking it’s okay to to let your flesh take control, but you know in your heart what God is telling you to do.
DO NOT ALLOW SOCIAL MEDIA, FRIENDS OR TELEVISION TO TELL YOU WHAT TRUE LOVE IS.
If you want to know true love, look at the Bible’s definition of it (1 Corinthians 13). Too many expect life to be like Love and Basketball or The Notebook. All of these Disney and movie fantasies will have you ignoring your blessing that you’re praying about. Many people want a godly relationship, but when they have a godly person in their lives that’ll correct them when they’re falling or lukewarm, they take it as judgement. So you want a godly relationship, but you don’t want God? Some people claim they want true love, but they really just want someone they can post on social media. Just because all of your friends are dating or married, that doesn’t mean God is telling you to do the same.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being married, but I honestly believe many of us don’t understand that marriage is way more than we think. We have to understand that marriage is a ministry as well and God has to prepare us for it. I honestly believe our motives are what causes us to have our blessings delayed (read more about that here).

“(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)” 2 Corinthians 5:7

I’ve learned that we live in a generation of people that are driven by emotions (see Provers 30:12). We disregard the word of God, and we go by opinions instead of scripture. We don’t like correction, because our feelings are placed higher than God at times.

“There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” (Proverbs‬ ‭30:12‬)

There are days when my marriage isn’t all sunshine and roses. I absolutely love my wife and our marriage is great (she said so as well, so don’t think I’m being dramatic lol). However, that does NOT mean we are happy every single waking moment of the day. There are some days when it’s like she can’t wait to hug me, and there are some times when I’m sure her hands just want to hug my neck. If we go by those days when there are no “butterflies”, we’d foolishly think God didn’t bring us together. When we don’t feel those “butterflies”, does that mean it’s time to jump ship? No. It’s time to keep cultivating our love so it doesn’t die out.
Does that mean I’m telling you to settle? NO, PLEASE DON’T SETTLE. I get butterflies when I’m around my wife still. But you have to understand feelings should not dictate your future. Pray regarding that person. If God gives you peace regarding them and He gives you confirmation to keeping the relationship, then don’t give up on them just because you don’t feel happy all the time.
Grace and peace.

Words

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. – Plato
As Christians, we have the opportunity to show someone Christ without even mentioning His name. We have grown accustomed to saying “I’m Christian” instead of being Christian. A major way to show the world the love of God is by our words. We should not say things that will cause people to sin or go against the church. Our words should always be graceful, beneficial, and kind to the hearer (Colossians 4:6). Words are very impacting. You can be nice to someone for years, but they’ll never forget the one time you did them wrong. You may be forgiven, but you cannot take back your words. So to avoid the hurt, just learn to limit your words and speak to people respectfully.
 

Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. (Proverbs 10:19)

 
Before you speak, ask yourself:
1. Is this true?
2. Is this helpful?
3. Will they be offended?
4. If it needs to be said, does it have to be said now?
5. Even if I’m right, how can I say this without a judgmental approach?
“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Whoever made that up was very clever, but that is definitely far from the truth. Many of us today struggle with insecurities because of things once said about us. Called names and ridiculed, and in return leaving many scars. If that is you, I will definitely like to encourage you and let you know that you are good enough, you are beautiful, and Jesus thinks you are to die for. Never let someone’s opinion of you change your reality. God did not make a mistake. Before you speak, think about what you are saying. You want your actions to point people to God, not to insult anyone. The bible says it is almost impossible to reach a person that was previously offended (Proverbs 18:19). You do not understand someone’s battle, so just use your mouth to keep them in prayer.
Here’s a challenge for you! This week, choose one of these 2 ways to impact/uplift someone with your words:
 
1 – Use your words to share Jesus.
If you love Jesus, why not share Him? Yes, the Bible says they will know us by our love, but how can someone come to salvation if you don’t share the gospel (Romans 10:14)? Talk about Jesus as often as you can. Please don’t be awkward though.
Friend at work: “Hey, would you like to come to lunch with us?”
You: “I can’t, but Jesus loves you. Let me know when you have a minute to discuss salvation and your eternal dwelling place.”
Just please don’t. But pray that God will open a door for you to share your faith, your testimony and share His goodness.
 
2 – Encourage someone.
Everyone loves to hear kind words, and many of us have a friend that is just always kind. But have you ever reached out to them and just said, “Hey, I appreciate you. You’re a great friend, praying for you. Have a blessed day.”? Be willing to reach out. I know you would rather someone reach out to you, but this is a way to treat your neighbor the way Jesus expects.
You know that they struggle with sin? Pray for them. Try to help them back up, don’t look down on them for their weakness. Use your words to assure them that God is able to deliver and keep them.
 
 
I encourage every reader to listen to an amazing song by Hawk Nelson, it is called “Words”. Your words have power. Use your words to bring life and not to tear others down.
 

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)

 
Grace and peace.

6 Characteristics of a Godly Man

What does a “godly” man even look like? Most have their opinion, some good and some bad. Well how does God portray a real man? Ladies, before you jump off the ledge with a clown, read this and see how a man really should act. Men, before you go chasing a woman for marriage or you’re just reading this because you desire more of Jesus in your life, I’m praying this can help you. What exactly makes him “godly”?  Let’s see!
1. Godly men spend time with God.
It’s very easy to look spiritual. You can attend church and you can post scriptures on social media because you love God, but that doesn’t mean you spend time with God. We have to be intentional about our growth. It’s easy to let hours go by without acknowledging God. We can Netflix, play sports, video games and basically do nothing for an entire day. We may never be able to “find” time to seek God, but we have to make the time to grow. Our hearts and minds are bombarded by distractions, so we must make the deliberate choice to shut everything down and open our bibles. To turn off the screen and get down on our knees to pray. To decide to not go out with the friends one day and go on a fast. We have to develop a hunger for God in order to live godly lives.
The true measure of a believer is not in how high they jump in the service, but how straight they walk according to God’s will after. Spiritual growth does not happen by accident. We don’t find God by accident, we must be intentional. In my opinion, it shows maturity when you can spend time with God even when it feels “boring”. Pushing past your feelings, because you know that God is worthy despite how you “feel”.
Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. (Matthew 5:6)
2. Godly men are bold.
No man who knows his worth in Christ will ever feel the need to be shy or be afraid of anyone’s opinion of their lives. That doesn’t mean we all should be the outgoing and “extrovert” type just because we love God, but none of us who understand our worth will allow fear and insecurities to cripple our spiritual walk. All of the disciples that Jesus held close to Him weren’t the smartest alive. However, they spoke with authority, power and with wisdom because they were being led by the spirit of Christ (see Acts 4:13).
If a man is interested in a woman, he will pursue her. He will not wait on a woman to be interested in him. He will seek God, pursue her, and do everything within his power to win her affection. Godly men know what they want and they won’t settle for less. That doesn’t mean he will force a woman to love him back, but he will go out of his way to win over her heart. So ladies, if a man doesn’t pursue you, that can only mean three things:
  1. He is NOT interested.
  2. He is NOT ready for a commitment.
  3. He is interested, but too shy to speak. If he is, that doesn’t mean throw yourself at him to break the ice. Some men are just not that confident, especially around a beautiful woman. But he should be willing to get past that if he is interested. I do not believe a woman should pursue a man, I do not believe the bible supports that (Proverbs 18:22). However, that does not mean you can’t make a friend and pray that God tells him to pursue you (you ladies know that you do that already).
The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion. (Proverbs 28:1)
3. Godly men try to lead others, not control them.
There’s probably nothing worse than someone who demands respect, but they don’t deserve it. You can’t expect your wife to submit to you, and you’re controlling instead of leading her. You can’t expect your friends to see you as a godly example to emulate, if you are condemning them rather than loving them and living how Jesus lived. The fruit of the spirit is self-control, not people-control. Manipulation and control are characteristics of the devil, not the spirit of God. If Jesus Himself does not seek to control us, then we should not be doing that to anyone else. Controlling boyfriends/girlfriends will become controlling spouses, so please do not settle. You shouldn’t have to cut off friends or social media to “make them happy”. You shouldn’t have to “report” to them with your whereabouts. BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT, but please understand that is different from being controlled.
And if you have been accused of this, It’s not to say that you’re going to Hell and you’re such a terrible person. You just have to learn to see people as people, instead of objects. You also need to learn that God is in control and it is okay to trust Him, instead of expecting you will always have it figured out or you always need to control the situation.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23 ESV)
4. Godly men exercise consistency and discipline.
Paul never felt like he reached his highest level, he continued to strive to get deeper into God’s presence (Philippians 3:7-10). I like to use Paul as an example a lot because I feel like he is the best example on how God is able to turn your life around no matter how bad your past was. Jesus tells us that the people who hunger and thirst after righteousness will be filled (Matthew 5:6). It’s one thing to confess that you love Jesus, but that is something that must be shown in your consistent efforts in seeking Him. When it is tempting to get lazy and complacent in your spiritual life, you have to be willing to dive into the Word of God. When you are tempted to compromise your walk with God, be willing to say “this isn’t worth my intimacy with Jesus”. 
I used to struggle with a particular issue so much that I had to seek help from my mentor. He showed me how to get over the issue with advice, prayer and the scriptures. I “overcame”, but I was back in my mess in just a few weeks or months later. I have come to realize that we fall into sin when we get complacent with our walk with God (1 Corinthians 10:12-13). Unless we are consistently seeking God for help, that thorn in our flesh will continue to be a stumbling-block for us. However, the more we seek Jesus for help with our issues, is the more we will see that His grace is sufficient and that His strength is made perfect in our weakness (see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10).
And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. (Galatians 5:24)
 
5. Godly men guard their purity
Now before you think I just said godly men are some form of biblical superheroes, let me clarify. No I did not say they cannot fall, I said they guard their purity. Falling into sexual temptation has to be the easiest thing to do on planet earth. You had to go out of your way to see something or do something inappropriate a few years ago. Now, I can pull out my smartphone and I’m free to lust over anything moving. I cannot tell you the amount of times I’ve went on YouTube for one thing, and the suggested videos are showing me nonsense. Let’s not even mention Social Media’s negative influence on our efforts to live pure. However, that is no excuse to fall. The devil can tempt us, but we can choose to not indulge in it. It’s one thing to notice a lustful image or see someone dressed immodestly. But what I think and what I allow my heart to desire is fully up to me.
We all know David fell into sin with Bathsheba, He saw a beautiful woman taking a shower and decided he had to have her. Instead of turning away, he allowed lust to take over. If you know that what you’re looking at is ungodly and not God’s will for your life (porn, inappropriate images on social media, etc.), then please stop before it leads further down a path of immorality and emptiness.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.” (Job 31:1 NLT)
6. Godly men are human
Many people will read this blog title and believe I am setting some false illusion of what all men must be or they aren’t true Christians. But the truth is, godly men are always going to be a work in progress. If you were perfect, you wouldn’t need Jesus. So many people are walking in shame today because they’ve slipped, but there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus and trying to pursue Him daily (Romans 8:1). God sees when we are striving to please Him with our actions. If you aren’t where you need to be, then draw closer to God. The bible says God will draw closer to us if we draw closer to Him (James 4:8). “No one is perfect” and “I’m only human” is not an excuse for sin, but it is the reason why we have to just allow ourselves to depend on God’s grace daily. Let God order your steps so you can be a light to others.
The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand. (Psalms 37:23-24)
Grace and peace.
 

Tell Someone!

Even though it is a Christian’s duty to evangelize, I believe many of us never understand this concept. If you believe anything Jesus said, you would know that Hell is real. I know many never focus on this topic and love to talk about God’s grace. However, if Heaven is real so is Hell. If we don’t share the Gospel, many people will be lost. We (me, anyone reading this, or anyone claiming to be a Christian) all have a responsibility to tell someone about Jesus. Of course many of us will never reach thousands, but maybe if you reached one person, they could reach thousands. Each one reach one! Many people stress missions, and I completely believe that they are important (Matthew 28:19-20 and Acts 1:8). However, do not feel you must go to other countries and totally overlook those right next door to you.
What are some things that stop us from evangelizing? I’ll give a few and tell you why to not let them bother you.
1. Fear! Fear of rejection, fear of not knowing what to say, fear of people attacking us and saying our God isn’t real.
If someone rejects the Gospel, they rejected Jesus not you. Stop taking it personal! Just go to someone else. Everyone will not believe. Jesus saves not us, so plant the seed and move to someone else.
– Don’t know what to say? Share your testimony. Many can reject scriptures, but they cannot reject God delivering you from anxiety, porn, self-hatred, bitterness, drugs, alcohol, homelessness, etc. Your testimony is someone else’s deliverance.
– If they do not believe, that’s fine. Perfectly fine! God saves. Just pray for them.
2. No time! I’m busy with school, work, the family, etc. Many will not like this, but honestly those are poor excuses.
– We find time for television, mall, phone, and many other things that we are interested in. You do not find time for God’s work, you make the time!
– Many of us use social networks. People read our tweets, statuses and definitely see our tumblr and Instagram pictures. Many of us will never win a soul unless we shape up what we put on social media. The apostles did great things without any technology, it is time that we use these things as assets and not liabilities for someone’s spiritual growth. I can not follow someone who claims to be Christian and they seem to be more worldly than a nonbeliever. Let’s get it together guys!
3. We just do not care to!
– Any man who thinks he’s on the way to Heaven and does not want others to go with them does not have the right to say they are Christian.
– Jesus was compassionate. He loved, rebuked and helped. Why can’t you just tell one person that Jesus loves them? Just invite them to church and let God convict them haha, but seriously. Be bold and caring enough to win some souls!
Ask yourself these questions?
– Has anyone ever told you they will come to church or become a Christian because they admire the way you live?
– Have you been able to get someone to come to church this year, and if so are they still there?
– Living like the world will not draw any unsaved, so do you live like Jesus in every aspect of your life?
– Do you tell people at school and work that you are a Christian (even when they are homosexual/lesbian, atheist, Muslim, etc.)?
– Do you treat people of different beliefs with equal respect?
And do not worry, answering yes does not mean you’re better than anyone or self righteous. Answering no does not mean you are a sinner and headed to Hell. However, all of us could do better trying to win people to Christ. Jesus did not die for us to turn His church into a modeling contest, a carnal concert, or a place for self righteous people to stay in their bubble. Ministry is not only in church, ministry is when you go outside the church and then face battles. Ministry is when people look at you funny, but you still smile and share Jesus. Ministry is when people do not believe and do not care, but yet you serve them.
I know many really don’t care to hear me or believe me, but it has never been about me. It is all for His glory. Let’s go share the Gospel!
And saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel. (Mark 1:15)
– Tovares Grey

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Who Gets More Time?

The easiest way to tell what a person loves is by checking where they spend the most time, money, and their talents. Everyone may not believe in God, but everyone worships. Some worship Jesus, while others worship other gods, their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse, their car, homes, education, music artists and actors, models, or social networks. Sad to say, but many of us worship ourselves. Of course none of us bow down to these things or people (at least I hope not), but we worship them because we dedicate most of our time to them rather than to God. Am I saying God wants us to wake up and pray/read our bible until we fall asleep? No, but He surely shouldn’t have to compete to be in our schedule. God wants to be in control of our entire life not a part of our life.
So let me propose a question to you: who or what do you worship? Please don’t just say “God, duh. Next question.” Rather, please examine your busy schedule and see if it is centered around God. Let God be the most important part of your day or get the most devotion. Of course we all have things to do like work, school, take care of family, etc. but that’s no excuse to give God a few minutes of a day that He did not even have to give us. We should start trying to spend more time with God than with our television. That person you love may be great, but they do not deserve more time than the Man who thought you were to die for, Jesus! We often go through our “busy schedule” and find time to squeeze in the mall, phones, social networks, gossip, sin, gym, and then we give God the five minute prayer before a meal or bed (even though we are already half asleep).
O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is; (Psalms 63:1)
By no means am I saying that “my priorities are set, I spend time with God for hours and I am perfect”. I am doing my best to give Him more time, as we all should. When we look at this previous verse we must understand what David was really trying to convey. David was in a literal wilderness! When in those types of conditions you’re without proper nutrition, any friends around, etc. Take Jesus for an example, after fasting in the wilderness, He was very hungry after (Matthew 4:2). However, despite David’s condition, he said he wanted more of God. David had an hunger for God, knowing that more of God was all that matters. He did not care about himself, but his mind was on getting more from God. Even though David committed adultery, he was considered as “a man after God’s heart” (Acts 13:22). It is not about your mistake, it is about your willingness to get up and seek God again. David was in constant pursuit of making God his number one priority.
Here are a few questions that I want us to read and answer truthfully. Do not be in denial, God knows the REAL you.
– Do we care more about winning souls to Christ or about our followers on social networks?
– Are we focused on living a life acceptable to God or one that conforms to society and makes us not looked weird or called “too holy”?
– Are we giving more to God with our tithes and offering than we do to the mall?
– Are we giving God leftovers or our best?
– Are we serving God with gladness or out of guilt, obligation, and fear of Hell?
– Do we know more lyrics than we know scriptures?
– Do we reach for our phone or bible when we get up?
– Do we pray for others or talk about them?
– Do we shout louder in praise or over a sporting event?
– Is Instagram more interesting than prayer?
There are so many questions that we can ask ourselves, but this is not to make us feel guilty, ashamed, or even say “you don’t earn salvation, you accept it”. This is about us willing to boldly forsake our worldly ways and pursue Christ. After all, God does not want most of our life, He wants us completely surrendered to Him. What can God do with someone who only wants to worship Him in a church setting? God cannot use a cyber Christian, God wants full time obedience. Worship the Creator, not His creation. People and things should never get more time and appreciation than God. Be grateful for everything you have, but do not make God feel as though you no longer care about Him. Jesus died for us, we should live for Him. Jesus did not die for us to go to church on Sunday and live like He doesn’t exist the rest of the week. What are you hungry for? Fame? Money? Love? Respect? None of that matters if you gain it and lose your soul (Matthew 16:25). Seek God now while you can, our days are limited. Let’s stop wasting it focused on the wrong things.
Seek the Lord while he may be found; call on him while he is near. (Isaiah 55:6)
– Tovares Grey

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Imperfect, but Chosen

If you ever search throughout scriptures or simply read a few books in the bible, you will find that God chooses simple, uneducated, sinful people to go out and reach a broken and lost world. We often feel as though we are inadequate and not able to fulfill God’s plan for our lives because of our past or even because of our consistent mistakes. But God is more concerned about your obedience and your willingness, not your weaknesses.
Lets look at Biblical examples:
– Abraham was old
– Moses had a speech impediment
– Peter denied Jesus three times
– Paul used to kill Christians
– Lazarus was dead
– Leah had strange eyes
– Noah was a drunk
– Jeremiah/Timothy was young
– Samson was a womanizer
– David killed a man and committed adultery with his wife
– Jonah ran from God
– Jesus’ “inner circle” of disciples fell asleep during prayer
Now trust me when I say this, your circumstances doesn’t stop God’s plan for your life. God’s purpose for your life is bigger than your mistakes. No matter where we are coming from, God’s grace is strong enough to use us. It doesn’t matter how we look or where we grew up, God is able to use anyone for His glory. Never feel as though you can’t do something for God. Just make yourself available and watch God work.
And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. (Luke 9:23)
– Tovares Grey

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Breath of God

And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. (Genesis 2:7)
God formed man out of dust. We were nonexistent, nothing to be admired, looked on or of even worth. Even when God formed us, we had no use whatsoever. Adam BECAME a living soul AFTER God breathed into him.
This is the very reason we need the breath of God to blow on and within us. Without God’s spirit we would still be dead and useless. Without His spirit, we would still be in sin, the world, and lost without a hope of salvation. When Jesus’ death reached our hearts and the moment we surrendered to Him, God breathed life into us.
God uses the outcasts, the rejected, the broken, poor, and the weak to show the world that we are all nothing without Him, but we can do everything THROUGH Him. It isn’t about where you came from, as long as God is behind you, nothing can stop you (Romans 8:31). Degrees, beauty, riches, and popularity doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that God is with us, nothing will be able to stop us then.
The children of Israel were labeled as a valley of dry bones (Ezekiel 37).
– Dry bones have no more use, you surely cannot find anything to do with them.
– There was absolutely NO life in them, so you know people ignored and gave up on them.
– When Ezekiel prophesied and believed God, The Lord breathed on the bones and they began to come together.
– Not only did they come together, but they became a great army.
It doesn’t matter how insignificant you were, when God breathes on you, you become great and you’re equipped to do His work.
– Moses had a speech impediment, but God used him.
– Timothy was young, but God used him.
– David killed and committed adultery, yet God used him.
– Paul was once a murderer of believers and turned into a GREAT missionary.
– We have our imperfections, flaws and carnal ways that make us feel that we cannot fulfill God’s call, but if you feel that way just ask Him to breathe on you once again. David was still a man after God’s heart. Many may judge you by your mistake, but you are not your mistake. You’re God’s child!
When God breathes in you, your spirit is awakened. Pray for God to breathe on you once again. Even if you feel He’s not listening, just keep seeking. Keep praying and reading His word. His word says He will fill you when you are hungry/thirsty.
In the beginning, when God decided to make the world, His Word says the earth was void and without a shape. However, it said that the Spirit of God moved on the waters (Genesis 1:2). God had to move on the earth before He went further. God wants to breathe on us once again. In the book of Acts, God poured His spirit out while the people were praying (Acts 2). That’s because He said in Luke 24:49, that they should wait for Him to empower them. Acts 1:8, said the Holy Spirit will give us power. Let’s not go further without asking God to breathe on us, ask Him today. God bless!
– Tovares Grey

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Peace Be Still

No matter who you are, where you come from or whatever you believe, there will come a time in your life where you will experience difficulty. Many believe money is the answer to their problems. Even though I agree that money can solve many things, it cannot bring happiness. If that were the case we wouldn’t see many millionaires kill themselves, business owners lose everything in a day, neither would we have celebrities that feel empty and turn to drugs or alcohol.
There are only three types of people in this world:
1. Those going into a storm.
2. Those already in their storm.
3. Those coming out of a storm.
We all must experience difficulties at some point in time. Many of us who claim to be Christians get discouraged and sometimes even walk out on God when things go “wrong”. I really wonder which bible they read because my bible said that “righteous” people will have many trials. However, it promised that God would deliver us out of all of them (Psalms 34:19). We always get the mindset that if God is all powerful, why would He let the devil harm me? However the devil cannot harm you, he can only show us where our heart lies.
Job was a man that walked upright before God and didn’t even like the sight of sin (Job 1:1). However, God gave the devil permission to step in and mess up everything around Job (Job 1:8-12). When Job went through this experience I could completely understand any frustration that he may have had, but he never turned his back on God. Job’s very own friends didn’t understand the process God took him through and criticized him. However, when it was all said and done, God restored double back to Job (Job 42:10).
Many of us pray and ask God to use us, but did you know that was a way of being used for His glory? Sometimes we lose things we love, but it’s not for us to cry or murmur, it’s for us to realize that God is all we need. Job really cared about his children, it’s evident when the bible mentions him making daily sacrifices for them (1:5), and it’s clear that he had much riches (1:3). However, that all left and all he had was God. However, if God is all we have, we have all that we need. Even if people do not understand our process, God has a purpose for it. Jesus rebuked Peter and called him “satan” (Matthew 16:23). Was Peter a child of satan? No. However, Jesus only came on earth to be crucified. Anyone who wants to stop God’s process in your life is NOT your friend, they are a spiritual hindrance. So Jesus had to rebuke Peter and assure him, our lives are for God’s glory not for physical comfort.
If God decided to shake your life upside down, would you still say you trust Him? If none of your bills were paid and you didn’t have a job, would you still believe He is Jehovah Jireh, The God who provides? If everyone that you cared about walked away, would you chase them or look up to Jesus? Lets be honest, those are not easy questions and many of us struggle with those. When my uncle was murdered, I didn’t know what to do. I basically internalized it and stored up so much anger. Now that I think of it, God is still healing me from past hurts like that. However, God can’t work on our behalf if we don’t trust Him. I would not have made it past that season if God did not give me peace in my storm.
Jesus purposely went into a boat with his disciples knowing that their would be a raging storm. To make things worse, He went to sleep. I don’t know whether to laugh or not, but if I was in that scenario maybe I would have cried. The disciples saw the boat filling up with water and woke Jesus up asking if He didn’t care if they died. Jesus rebuked the very weather and asked His disciples why didn’t they have faith. The storm could’ve been caused by the devil, but the glorious truth is that God has the power to quiet every problem in our lives (Mark 4:35-41).
Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever (Hebrews 13:8), so if he could calm storms then, he can now. If Jesus could heal the sick before, your sickness isn’t a problem. I know so many people God has healed from several sicknesses, so I’m sure God can heal me if He ever allows me to be sick in the future. That lump the doctors told my mom they saw, is gone because of the power of God. That bill I did not know how it would be paid, God provided. You think lust is unbearable, look around and see how many people God has helped. Your scenario is not always like others, but your God can handle any situation.
Many are still going to leave this blog and be afraid when they meet obstacles, but just continually remind yourself: God is able (Ephesians 3:20). Never forget it. Do not go by what you see, go by what God’s word said. When your prayers seem to be delayed, don’t think they are denied. Just keep praying (Luke 18:1-8). God bless!
– Tovares Grey

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